Lech Lecha

1. Shabbat Shalom

2. At the very beginning of this week’s Parsha, God, out of the blue, tells Avram to leave his home country and go to a different land that God will show him. God makes all kinds of promises about what will happen to Avram when he and his family get to this unknown land, but the reason Avram has to leave the land of his birth, the land of his ancestors is never mentioned in the text of the Torah.

3. One reason that Avram might want to leave his home country is because he lived in a world where people worshiped local gods. The only way to teach people to worship the one God of the universe, the God who will be the focus of Judaism in later centuries, is to be in a country where one can see the hand of God clearly. For Avram and for us, that land is the land of Israel. For over 4000 year, from the moment that Avram first set his sights on the land, Israel has been the one place in the world where Jews have gone to find a personal connection to God.

4. I usually don’t speak about Israel from the pulpit for the same reasons I don’t do most news stories, current events or political positions. We live in a world of 24 hour, seven day a week news cycles. There are many really famous television, radio and cable personalities who have a small army of researchers who make sure that each broadcast is completely up to date and ready for intelligent conversation. OK, maybe some of it is not so intelligent, but for me, a pulpit Rabbi in a large congregation with many pastoral and spiritual responsibilities, I just don’t have the expertise to argue policy from the Bima. My duties are to teach Jews the spiritual and moral direction of their lives. I have never seen my role in a congregation to be the mouthpiece for Israel to the exclusion of everything else.

5. But that does not mean that Israel is not important. In fact, Israel is one of the really important parts of being a Jew. The Jewish Federations had a campaign recently that put their message on T-shirts and banners all over our community. It said, “Wherever I stand, I stand with Israel”. And that is something we must always feel every day we speak out in the world. It does not matter if we stand on the left or on the right. It does not matter if we are Democrats, Republicans or Independents. It does not matter if we are Conservative, Reform, Orthodox or Reconstructionist. If we are Jews, we must stand for Israel. God knows that there are certainly plenty of other people, who, for all kinds of reasons, don’t understand why Israel, even with all her imperfections, is important to Jews, to the Eastern Hemisphere and to the world. If we don’t speak out about Israel, then who will support the Jewish state?

6. Russel Robenson, the CEO of the Jewish National Fund, the organization that literally owns the land that Israel is built on, recently said in a report to Rabbis, “Any Jew in the world who wants to go to Israel can now go to Israel. And they have a place called Israel to go to. We have won even more than we had hoped to win. There are over 15 Israeli companies now on Wall Street. Israel is an economic miracle. All the detractors and boycotters can do what they will but at the end of the day, we are here and we are strong.” There may be many countries and world leaders who do not like Israel but Israel is not going anywhere. And we don’t need to have the constant siege mentality. We only need to do our part to keep Israel strong.

7. I received from many people here, a sermon from the internet, from Shelomo Lewis. That is actually an error. Rabbi Sholom is a long time friend of mine in Atlanta. He too is a strong supporter of Israel. That fact is clear from his long time stance in support of Israel and you can’t read the sermon and not believe that his heart is with Israel constantly. I had only one problem with his sermon. While it is passionate and articulate, it does not tell anyone what they can do to support Israel. He gets everyone fighting mad but never gives any guidance about what we can do to keep Israel strong. That is an argument I have will all my colleagues who speak about all the terrible things others say about Israel and all the terrible things that others want to do to Israel. Just what do they expect us to do about it?

8. So I say today, if anyone here wants to be a REAL supporter of Israel, these are the five things that everyone should do to show that their support of our Jewish homeland is more than just angry words.

9. First of all, if we are to be a supporter of Israel, we need to buy Israel Bonds. The most basic bond is only 100 dollars. It has a return on investment that makes it secure enough to place our retirement accounts. The money that we are lending Israel with those bonds goes directly to building the Jewish state. It goes to roads, bridges, tunnels, airports, railway stations, transportation, the electrical grid, and thousands of other basic requirements of a modern country. There are many good causes in Israel to donate our money, but if we are to be real Israel supporters, we need to invest our money in the basic structure of the state.

10. This means that we should buy at least one bond every year. It is not enough to say I bought them last year, or the year before. If we can afford to, we should reinvest our bonds as they become due. The State of Florida invests in Israel Bonds. The pension accounts of dozens of cities and counties in south Florida also are heavily invested in Israel bonds. They see these bonds as safe investments for their future retirees. But if Jews don’t invest in Israel bonds, then how can we say that we believe in what Israel stands for? Warren Buffet has said that one should never invest in a company that you don’t understand. We Jews understand the importance of Israel and that these investments are safe and secure. We will have a breakfast for Israel Bonds here at Temple Emeth in February. You don’t have to wait that long if you don’t want to. You can find out about Israel Bonds at the local Israel Bonds office or online. Don’t call yourself a supporter of Israel unless you are buying Israel Bonds every year.

11. The second way we must show our support for Israel is to join Mercaz, the Zionist party of Conservative Judaism. American Jews should not be telling Israeli political parties how to run their country. But we can tell them how to spend the money we send to Israel every year. This allocation is done through the World Zionist Congress. Our representatives to the World Zionist Congress are from Mercaz. We support pluralism, freedom of religion, equal funding for all religious organizations, support for Jews with disabilities and special needs, education for all citizens and a center political course for Israel. Membership in Mercaz is only $36 dollars per person. We are given votes in the World Zionist Congress based on how many members our organization has. Just by joining, we strengthen our representation in the Congress and enable us to work in coalition with other parties that have similar agendas. Mercaz works closely with Reform Judaism, Hadassah and many Israeli parties to plot a course for Israel that is for a state that represents all of the citizens, not just the most radical positions on either the left or the right.

12. Since the day I came to Temple Emeth, Mercaz information has been in our lobby. Joining is as simple as sending in a check or using a credit card online. It is the best $36 dollars you will ever spend. As a member of their national board I donate to Mercaz far more than regular dues. It is a vital part of my identity as a Jew and a show of my support of Israel. If you are an active Israel supporter, then you should also be a member of Mercaz.

13. The third thing all Israel supporters must do is to join an Israel advocacy organization. A real supporter of Israel must be politically active in this country on behalf of Israel. It is not enough to just vote for the candidate who says that he or she is pro Israel. We need to lend our voices to the ongoing lobbying effort to provide security and political support from the United States to Israel. The two largest Israel advocacy organizations in this country are AIPAC and J Street. I know that it is strange to mention them in the same breath; they are very different but they both work hard to show us how we can lobby our representatives in support of Israel. I am a member of AIPAC. You can like what J Street stands for or not but the discussion is important, and joining one or the other is important. AIPAC will be holding is Fall Conference in Hollywood, FL in just two weeks. There are fliers in the lobby about a special community forum on Monday evening, October 25, at 7:00 pm. The cost is reasonable and the support we show is vital for Israel. If we get ten of our members to attend we can have our own table. If we get more than 20 to attend, we can talk about getting together and renting a bus to take us to the Westin Diplomat Hotel for the program. To be a supporter of Israel, one must be involved.

14. The fourth duty of being an active supporter of Israel is to visit Israel, at least once every three years. Change happens so fast in Israel that after three years there is more to see than what we saw before. It is not enough to have a member of our family live in Israel. That is very good and also important, but that is how they show their support for Israel. To show our support, we need to visit Israel for ourselves. Every year, I have many families tell me that they would have visited Israel if only the economy would be better, if the terrorism was not so bad, if the Arab situation was not so scary, etc. etc. Our parents would have given anything to visit Israel even once in their lives. How can we show our support for Israel if we never go there? There are many ways to visit Israel even if we have all kinds of special needs. Israel is one of the most accessible countries in the world. To be a true Israel supporter, we need to visit the land we love or send a member of our family to the land at least once every three years. For over a decade one or more members of my family have been in Israel every year. If this is a year you would like to go to Israel let me know by sending me an email or a letter. If we get just 20 people who want to go, we will call a meeting and organize a Temple Emeth trip to Israel.

15. Finally, if we really want to show our support of Israel, we need to stop waiting for the Rabbi to tell us what to do, and we must organize an Israel Committee at Temple Emeth. This committee would create at least one important program for Israel for the congregation each year and would be the source of information for all our members on how each of us can do something for the Jewish State. The members of this committee would represent our congregation at Israel events in the community and help organize advocacy on behalf of Israel. Our members don’t need me to speak every week about Israel; the greatest support for Israel will come from those in our congregation who will create the forum to keep Israel always on the minds of our members, in the bulletin, in our programming and in our wider community. How can we say we support Israel if we don’t serve on a committee for Israel right here in our own congregation?

16. These are the five things that a supporter of Israel must do: Buy Israel bonds, Join Mercaz, Join AIPAC or J Street, Visit Israel AND (nor or) AND serve on our own Temple Emeth Israel committee. Sitting at the Kiddush and commenting on the Rabbi’s sermon may be OK when we are talking about our moral obligations in the community. But if we are to call ourselves Supporters of Israel, we need to offer our hearts, hands and voices on behalf of the state that we love. For thousands of years, Jews longed to return to Israel and spoke about it on Shabbat, holidays and at Seder. What Herzl did was to stop talking and DO something about it, and within 50 years Israel was born. Imagine what a wonderful state Israel will be fifty years from now…. Let us go out and work to make that dream a reality. I could give a thousand sermons and not make one bit of a difference. But if each of us does each of these five things this year, we will affect life in Israel for years to come. I am waiting to hear from you after Shabbat.

 Shabbat Shalom

Toldot

1. Shabbat Shalom

2. If we were to examine the life of Isaac, we would be hard pressed to find incidents in his life that are his alone. More often than not, Isaac is part of the story of his father Abraham or part of the story of his son Jacob. It is really hard to find something that is unique to the life of Isaac.

3. The one story that is Isaac’s alone; is the story of Isaac and the digging of the wells. In Genesis Chapter 26, we find Isaac and his family locked in a struggle with the people of Gerar over water rights in the area around the city. At first, the people of Gerar try to drive Isaac and his family away by stopping up the wells he needs to water his flocks. When Isaac moves away and discovers new wells, the people of Gerar drive him away from those wells also. Finally, as he moves closer to the desert and Beer Sheva, he finally finds the water that he needs for his family and his flocks without having to fight for them. He is then able to make a treaty with the King of Gerar that will insure that there will no longer be trouble between Isaac and Gerar.

4. Isaac is so good at finding water because he is retracing the steps of his father Abraham. Each time he re-digs a well that was once his father’s, he does not rename the well, but calls it by the same name Abraham gave it. This is how he stays connected to the memory of his father. Later biblical commentators draw connections between the water that Isaac finds and the “water” that is Torah. In the Talmud, Rabbi Akiva teaches that just as a fish cannot live without water, so too a Jew cannot live without the life-giving words of Torah. Just as Isaac knows where to find the water because of the work of his father, so too do we know where to find Torah, by following the example of our parents, grandparents and great grand parents.

5. Our patriarchs were models of prayer. Abraham, Isaac and Jacob are given credit for creating the Shacharit, Mincha and Maariv services. Living a nomadic life, worrying about where the next watering hole will be, and if there will be enough food for the flocks and if there will be enough food and water for the family, all of these can help make a person very spiritual. Living out in nature, surrounded by trees, grass, mountains, animals and the wide open sky, it is not hard to feel connected to God. But for those of us who do not live out in nature, those of us who live in cities, with lots of people, lots of traffic, lots of noise and lots of urban congestion, it is much harder to find God.

6. There are some who say, that the last place they would look for God is in the synagogue. They might go to the beach, to the forest, out under the stars or in some other beautiful place in nature and there they would feel God’s presence. In synagogue there are too many people, too much talking, a lot of speed reading and too many distractions. How could Jews even think to find God in a synagogue? And yet, for me and for many others, a synagogue is a natural place to draw closer to God, as long as we don’t let the distractions hamper our search.

7. What does it really mean to pray? Is it just reading the words? Is prayer reciting a Hebrew text that we don’t understand? Is it prayer to read the English text even if that does not seem too traditional? Is prayer being on the right page? Or is prayer something altogether different? Rabbi Sharon Braus, one of my colleagues in Los Angeles has written, “A few months after I had become a rabbi, a terrible tragedy occurred in my congregation in New York. An active member of the synagogue, a junior in college, was crossing the street in her university after finishing a final exam when she was struck by a car and left in critical condition for a week, with little chance of survival. The whole community was paralyzed and devastated. “What can we do?” I asked my Rabbi. “Pray,” he said, “Pray with all our heart, pray as if there is no such thing as a medical certainty. Pray as if anything is possible. Pray without ambivalence, Pray without doubt in God’s capacity to heal. Pray as if the whole world depends on your prayers.” That Shabbat, I closed my eyes and sang out with all of my heart. Halfway through Kabbalat Sabbat I realized that I was no longer singing – I was praying. I was soaring. That experience changed my life. It is when I realized that prayer can be a moment in which we suspend doubt and disbelief, in which we allow ourselves to hope and to believe that anything is possible. Since then, I don’t sing, I pray.”

8. Temple Emeth can provide many ways for us to find prayer. We have a wonderful cantor, we have a congregation that loves to sing. We have many people who know the prayers and have prayed on Shabbat almost all of their lives. But in the end, nothing we can do will make prayer possible. In the end, the final boundary has to be crossed in our own hearts and souls.

9. I think that one of the barriers to prayer is the way we conduct the service. Maybe because I was a fidgety little boy, my mother and father were always trying to get me focused on the prayers. They asked me multiple times, “What page are we on?” trying to get me to keep up with the rest of the congregation. But I have discovered that being on the right page is not a good way to pray at all. When I am really praying, I may stay on one page long after everyone else has moved on. Something on that page has inspired me and I don’t want to leave it until the feeling is gone. I have responsibilities during the service to help the congregation find their way to their own prayers. This means that I have moments of deep prayer between long stretches of trying to catch up. But I have to try very hard not to get in the way of other people here who are trying to pray.

10. Rabbi Lawrence Kushner, from Massachusetts and now living in California, writes, “I’m always struck when the leader of the service says, ‘We now rise for the Shema’. Why are you telling me that? I’ve been coming to services here for thirty years. I know we stand up for the Shema. Only Jews tell one another when to stand. People in every other religion assume you know what to do, and if you don’t, you’re smart enough to watch and see what everyone else is doing?”

11. Just think about what Rabbi Kushner is saying. Do we really need to be told when to stand and when to sit? Some of you have been coming to shul longer than I have been alive. Does it really help when the Rabbi tells everyone to stand? This is supposed to be our spiritual home but when we are home do we need someone to tell us when we should stand and when we should sit? Or take a different example. I know that we are new to this prayer book, but do we really need anyone to tell us what page we are on? We know the basic order of the service. Borchu, Eyl Adon, Shema, Mi Chamocha, Amida, Kedusha, Kaddish Shalem, Torah Servcie, Sermon, Musaf and closing. If someone puts a different Ashkenazi siddur into our hands, how long would it really take us to figure out where the service is and to sing along with the rest of the congregation?

12. I often find myself agreeing with Rabbi Kushner. We are dumbing down our service. Making our congregations feel as if they are infants who need guidance to know how to pray. The fact is; our ability to pray is tied closely to our sense of spirituality, the needs that weigh heavily in our hearts and the sense of gratitude for all of God’s gifts in our lives. It is not so much about the words, but about how we feel in our hearts. At this week’s Sisterhood meeting I talked about the partnership between humanity and God to provide food for the world. As I walked around the room, a woman said to me, “After all these years, I never saw the Hamotzi that way. You are right; we lose sight of the human and divine elements in the food we eat.” She will never pray in the same way again.

13. Another Rabbi I know was told that his services were not very spiritual. He had to remind the person that a synagogue cannot make a person spiritual. We have to do that work ourselves. Every time I call out a page number, it is as if I am forcing everyone to be on the same page I am on. That is not how you find your way closer to God. If you are on a different page, then there must be a reason to be on that page. Being on my page will not help connect you to God. If it does anything, it moves us away from finding that religious space in our hearts. In our attempt to make things uniform, we have lost our spiritual way.

14. This is also the same dance that we do with the Torah Service. People tell me every week that they NEED me to tell them the page in the Humash where the Torah reading begins. And they tell me all kinds of reasons why I have to tell them. They tell me they don’t know Roman numerals. They tell me they don’t understand chapter and verse. Rabbis have so trained our congregations that we cannot even do what any Christian or Muslim can do, find their place in scripture by chapter and verse. I can also point out that there is another clue as to where the Torah reading will begin… The page number is printed in your Shabbat announcement sheet. Why do we have to break up our study of Torah to give a page number that everyone knows anyway?

15. In my daughter’s shul, everyone does not use the same siddur. They provide a guide, given out by the usher at the door, of the different books they use and on what page important prayers can be found. These are young Jews, not all of whom have had strong Jewish backgrounds, but they are smart enough to figure out, when they need to, where the congregation singing is in the Siddur.

16. So, as of today, I give everyone permission to be on a different page if it will help you in your search for God on Shabbat. If your heart is heavy with pain, worry or trouble, then you don’t need any page or prayer to pour your heart out to God. Don’t be on the same page. Find a word, a sentence, an idea, in Hebrew or in English, and examine it deeply as to why, at this moment, these are the most important words in your life. Close your eyes and see the words dancing inside your mind. Send the letters soaring to God, either above you or inside you.

17. The Siddur is not a cookbook. You can say all the words and still not have a cake to show for it when you are done. The siddur is a road map, a guide, an inspiration. Just as it inspired generations of Jews to reach higher and higher toward God, our liturgy can do the same for us if we only free the words from the burden of being correct, and instead see them as calling us to consider the deeper implications of what they have to say.

18. You don’t need me to tell you what page we are on. You probably, right now, have your finger in the place in the Siddur that you know we are going to turn to when this sermon is over. And you know that you will have to stand for the next prayer. What is the next prayer?

What page is it on?

Why in the world do you need me to tell you? How about we do without the page numbers and the interruptions, and let’s you and I, with all our heart, soul and might, stand up and pray together the Musaf service. And I mean REALLY pray it.

SHABBAT SHALOM

Hayye Sarah

  1. Shabbat Shalom
  1. I have to say that I envy Abraham in this week’s parsha. There were many times I would have loved to choose a spouse for my children; I thought I had found just the right person and I wanted nothing less then having both of them spend the rest of their lives together in love and in happiness. Alas, that is not the way of our world. Actually, my children made really good choices, so I can’t complain. I love their spouses as if they were my own children. But even for those of us who live in a world where our children pick their spouse for themselves, there still are important lessons for all of us, parents, grandparents and even for children and grandchildren in the story of Isaac and Rivka.
  1. Abraham’s servant, we call him Eliezer but he is unnamed in our text, sets out to find just the right girl for Isaac. He could have taken an easy road in this task. He could have gone straight to the home of Abraham’s family, to Bethuel’s home and stated his purpose for the trip. If he would have done this, what do you think might have happened? Let us remember the setting. The servant comes with gifts of gold and cattle for the family of the girl that he selects to marry Isaac. I am sure that Bethuel would have wanted his daughter to marry this distant relative and keep the wealth for himself. He would have praised the beauties and virtues of Rivka and maybe even denigrated some of the other local girls. After all, Rivka had to be the perfect choice for the son of his cousin Abraham.
  1. I can even hear the conversation. “Eliezer, I know the perfect girl for Isaac. There are lots of girls here in the city, but you really couldn’t do better than my daughter Rivka She is beautiful, kind and has all the skills Isaac would need from a wife living at the edge of the wilderness in Canaan. She knows her way to tend to the herds, for cooking and weaving. She is not like the other girls who waste their time at the watering hole. She is not like them at all. They all gossip constantly and make fun of the other shepherds. They all like to spend their days putting on makeup and fixing their hair, not the kind of girl a sheik of the desert would want for a wife. Those other girls are too spoiled living in the city to want to go an live in a tent. No, Eliezer, you could not find a better girl suited for Isaac than our Rivka
  1. Of course, we know that the servant was not in a hurry to go to the home of Abraham’s family. Instead he stopped at the well so he could see for himself how the local girls went about their daily tasks. At the well, he could observe how they reacted to a stranger with his animals at the well. By the time he gets to Bethuel’s home, he knows that Rivka is the right girl for Isaac and the rest is all in the negotiation. It turns out to be a good match and while their life is not easy, Isaac will come to love Rivka.
  1. So here we are, on the eve of the midterm elections, and we face a dilemma very similar to Abraham’s servant. For months, we have endured the constant barrage of campaign promises that predict the future if only we vote for the right candidate. I guess that I would not mind the constant advertising if it were not so negative all the time. I find myself paying attention to those ads that speak to what one candidate will do, and I try to ignore the ads that put down the competition.
  1. I am reminded of the Rabbi who watched two brothers arguing over which boy was taller. The older boy wanted to stand back to back with the other one and measure their height. But the younger boy insisted that they needed to correct for the older age of his brother. He came upon a plan to have his brother stand in a ditch when they were back to back, to compensate for the age difference. The Rabbi admonished the younger brother, “Why is it always to build yourself up you have to lower your brother? You could achieve the same effect if you were to raise yourself up on a stone.
  1. I never understand why candidates have to tear down their opponents rather than build themselves up. Actually, I do know WHY they do it. They do it because it works. Survey after survey shows that we voters don’t always remember the good candidates, but we always remember the names of the bad ones. So to win, it is not enough to speak praises of your own accomplishments, but you have to make sure that your opponent is remembered in a negative way. Just think about this for a moment. If we want to we can remember all the negative ads we have seen. But we hardly can recall the positive sides of the candidates. We would not be so far off the mark if we think that the candidates for office are all the same. Their promises are also field tested to resonate with the voters. There is often not too many real differences between the campaign platforms.
  1. None of the candidates are for higher taxes. None of them want larger deficits. All of them want Americans to have better health care. All of them want to clear out the corruption and end the back room deal making that is so much a part of government. Nobody is going to end Social Security. President Obama and Nancy Pelosi are not on the Florida ballot, even though they are in almost half of the ads on TV. And, did you notice, that the bad guys are always in black and white, while the good guys are always shown in living color. Everyone wants there to be more jobs and they are in favor of getting our economy moving again. They may disagree on HOW they will do all of these things, but they all agree on what is important to voters. After all, they have had months of polling data to show just how you are all thinking and what the candidates need to say to get your vote.
  1. So the real test for a candidate is not to get you to agree with him or her. The real job is to get you to believe that the opponent is NOT for these important issues. Every day I  listen to the fact checking organizations and they say over and over that the negative ads are false, lies and smears. In the end, it doesn’t matter if they are true or not. If they can make us suspicious, that is all they need to do. If you are unsure, you will hesitate before marking your ballot.
  1. Like Bethuel, we are getting only a daily dose of what the candidates want us to hear. We don’t buy cars based on the advertising, we only pay attention to the nature of the sale. We don’t plan our vacations based on what the country or resort looks like on TV, but if travel is 50% off, then we might look deeper. Why then would we vote based on campaign ads without looking deeper?
  1. Eliezer’s approach is better. We need to go out and do our own research. Guess what? There are many non-partisan groups who have done all this research for us and are happy to give us side by side comparisons of all the candidates for office. And they give out this information for free! They only want voters to have all the REAL information before going to the polls. With all that information, we can be ready to make up our own minds. It is like going to the well to see what the candidates are really like in their usual situations.
  1. In preparing to vote, Michelle and I first went to the website of the League of Women Voters. Virtually all the candidates had filled out position papers on questions that the League had supplied knowing that the answers would be listed side by side with their opponents. Stripped of all the hype and scare tactics, it was not too hard to see which positions held by the candidates were closest to what we would like to see in government. The League of Women Voters did not tell us how to vote, but it did give us insight into how each one would perform in office. The Jewish Journal, in this week’s edition, included as a pull out section, the information from the League of Women Voters. Take a good hard look at it and you will quickly see the importance of this section in helping to determine how we should vote.
  1. For the Judicial retention votes, I like to check out the rankings of the judges on the Bar poll. Lawyers appear before these judges and they are asked to rank how fair and impartial they are. It is rare that a judge has a 100% rating, but if the majority of lawyers who appear before these judges are unhappy, there must be something wrong. In choosing between judges in a non-partisan race, it is not so difficult to find a list of each one’s experience and compare who might be the best given the kinds of cases that will appear in that court. This information is always reported in the newspapers and if you miss it, you can get the information online at the newspaper’s website.
  1. Michelle and I also like to check out the endorsements of local newspapers. This is often not very helpful but sometimes there are issues that are not readily apparent. This is particularly true when it comes to the ballot initiatives. From the ads, you might never know what the ballot questions are really about. Between the endorsements and the information from the League of Women Voters, you can clearly see what the ballot questions are trying to accomplish and who is sponsoring them (or who is opposing them) it is not too hard to figure how to vote on these issues.
  1. How long does all of this take? On the Sunday after we receive our sample ballots (I always wait for the sample ballot since I don’t want to waste time on a candidate or an issue that is not on my ballot) Michelle and I spend a couple of hours in the afternoon doing our research and by dinner we are pretty set on who are the best candidates for us and how we would vote on the ballot questions. And No, we don’t always vote the same way. We share most of our values but sometimes we do disagree. We mark our ballots and unless something changes, that is who we vote for. From that point on, when the negative commercials come on the TV, we go and get a snack.
  1. So who are we voting for? That my friends is a secret. I can only tell you that we take voting very seriously and, in some cases thought long and hard about who would earn our votes. I can tell you however, who YOU should vote for….. You should vote for any and all candidates that stand for positions with which you agree. That is how I vote and it is how you should vote as well.
  1. And remember, if you don’t vote, I don’t want to hear your complaints about how awful our representatives are. If you don’t like who I voted for, then get out and vote. It is a duty and a responsibility for every citizen. The Polls open at 7 am on Tuesday.
Shabbat Shalom.

Vayera

  1. SHABBAT SHALOM
  1. Although I am thoroughly disgusted with the advertising for all the candidates for political office today, I have noticed one thing in all the mud slinging that it going on. I have discovered that politicians have to be either perfectly good or else they are perfectly evil. There is no middle ground. There is no category of a politician who is “good enough” to represent us. Now more than ever we live in a world of dichotomies, a world of extreme positions and no middle ground.
  1. Have you noticed that you have to be either secular or a religious fundamentalist? You have to be community oriented or else you must be an aspiring individualist. Even for Jews, we have to either be concerned with Jewish identity or else we think that only Jewish survival is important. And we either have to be true to our ethnicity or else we are pluralists; there is no middle ground. There is nothing really new in the parameters, In the 1950’s, at the Jewish Theological Seminary, students were either followers of Professor Mordechai Kaplan and his understanding of Judaism as a society, a religious community, or else you followed the mysticism of Abraham Joshua Heschel, and understood that the basic unit of Judaism is the individual who aspires to draw closer to God. What was true then is true today, there must always be a middle ground.
  1. It does not matter if we are talking about politics or religion, whenever we are presented with these kinds of dichotomies, we should know that they are all false choices. There is a path in between. Conservative Judaism, the Judaism that we practice here at Temple Emeth, is all about finding the proper path between extreme choices. Maimonides taught that one must walk a path that is midway between fire and ice; if we stray too far in either direction, we will either freeze or get burned. Finding our way on that middle path means learning to make important choices in how we live our lives.
  1. The Middle Way is not about making final decisions. It is about the journey through life, and deciding what kind of a person we want to be. We have to place ourselves on a path that leads from somewhere and goes somewhere – lest we discover that we are stuck in our position and really going nowhere. The current Chancellor of the Jewish Theological Seminary of America, Chancellor Arnold Eisen would have us chart our lives in the space between the extremism of our age. We don’t have to look far to see the problems of fundamentalism, in the Christian world and its right wing agenda, with Moslem extremism,  and the excesses of the Haredim in the United States and in Israel.  And we don’t have to look far to see the problems of the rampant secularism that is promoted in movies, television and in our literature. If all points of view are equally valid, what kind of a “moral compass” can we hope to acquire in life?
  1. There have been many who have tried to find the middle way in Judaism. There are those who talk about Jewish Identity, that we should identify ourselves in a Jewish way, but it never really tells us what it is that we need to do. We say that we are ethnically Jewish, in that we eat Jewish foods and use Jewish lingo in our speech. And yet, these days are times in which ethnic lines are more blurred and ideas of ethnic purity are seen as racist. We talk about Jewish survival but is it really enough just to survive? If we don’t set some parameters, then everyone will do what they want and then what will happen to Jewish traditions?
  1. In our Parsha, Abraham faces similar problems. He is a man of faith but his survival is not assured because he has no son or heir. He wanted to do the right thing, and even insisted that God must also do what is right and just, but we see that Abraham sent away Hagar and Ishmael, and he tried to sacrifice his only son. He was identified as a Hebrew but he was never clear about what the obligations were. Did it require fighting with his allies to protect his family? Did it require him to lie, that his wife was his sister, when he went down into Egypt? For Abraham, finding the right path was not easy. We can not expect it to be any easier for us either.
  1. I can tell you that I believe, with all my heart and soul and might, that Judaism would have us do the right thing in every aspect of our life. It is not about being a fundamentalist or nothing; that is a false dichotomy. Judaism gives us a wide range of actions that we can bring into our lives and the only real question we have to confront is just how Jewish do we want to be? That seems to be the underlying question as I go around asking my friends and students about how we decide what we will do in our religious Jewish lives. The question always boils down to how public we want to make our observance of Judaism? Are we afraid of what people will do to me or what they will say about me if they find out I am Jewish?
  1. We insist that all who worship with us in synagogue should wear a Kipah when we pray. Even non-Jews are asked to cover their heads when they come here to join us for Shabbat or daily services. But what would happen if we were to wear a Kipah when we are not in shul? Should we wear it all the time? Even if we eat in trayf restaurants? Even if we eat trayf in trayf restaurants? We all agree that it is important to have a Seder on Pesach, but why don’t we take Matzah with us for lunch for the rest of the week, when we go out to lunch with our friends? Judaism today is asking us about what is distinctive in our lives that identifies us as Jewish and still allows us to be accepted by the rest of society. And when I talk about the “rest of society” here in Delray Beach, I understand that I am talking about the other non-observant Jews in the community who may be living in fear that others may find out just how estranged from the Jewish community and from Jewish observance they are. So they ridicule any Jew in their social circle who would “dare” to act “more Jewish”. Should we allow these self-hating Jews the right to tell us how Jewish we should be?
  1. Once we ask ourselves what is the religious meaning in my life that comes from being a Jew, we understand that being Jewish also implies a certain number of responsibilities. We call these responsibilities, “Mitzvot”, commandments from God about how we should live our lives. We all know that tradition tells us that there are 613 Mitzvot that are contained in the Torah. The reality is, however, that there are less than half of them that are even possible to perform in this modern age, and there is nobody, in any branch of Judaism, who performs all the Mitzvot. We need to establish the importance of Mitzvot in our lives and then work to bring those that we consider most important into the fabric of how we live every day. Chancellor Eisen has written, “By opening up the possibility of what Mitzvah can mean, and how people can apply it in their Jewish lives, we begin to  generate a new vocabulary of practice which suits both a deep reverence for tradition and the creative individuality of our constituents.”
  1. Let me give an example. One of the Mitzvot that has been a signature in my life is walking to shul on Shabbat. I have done it since I was a child, walking with my parents. When we first moved to Florida, and lived in what was a very Southern Baptist neighborhood, my parents were concerned how our neighbors would feel seeing Jews walking to synagogue on Shabbat. I have to tell you, our neighbors had no idea about who Jews were and what we believed. But they clearly understood a family that would go to pray together on the Sabbath, even if it was a different Sabbath than they observed. We were always treated with friendship and respect. Just this week, an employee at Delray Hospital mentioned that he saw me walking to synagogue one Shabbat and realized that she knew me from my work at the hospital. She was rather proud that one of the people she knows and works with take religion seriously.
  1. The focus of my Lunch and Learn sessions on Tuesday Morning (not the one today, which has a different topic) will be bringing Mitzvot into our lives. Chancellor Eisen calls it “The Mitzvah Initiative”. It is a world wide movement that is not about Halacha, Jewish Law, but it is about our response to the commandments of the Torah. How we fulfill them can be a matter of personal choice, THAT we fulfill them is a Mitzvah, a religious obligation. The discussion about choosing our own signature Mitzvah and how we will bring it into our life can be one of the most important discussions we can have. Mitzvot are a challenge to us, in how we can use them to bring spirituality and faith into our lives. Abraham did not have Mitzvot to guide his life and so he struggled every day to live a life of faith. We have Torah to guide us in how we can live our lives with meaning and purpose.
  1. I invite everyone to join us for lunch on Tuesday mornings, beginning in just two weeks. We will not be discussing the importance of Mitzvot; rather we will be identifying those practices that are already a part of our lives, identifying them as mitzvot. We will explore how these religious commandments that are already a part of our lives  can help us  travel from where we are today to the goal of feeling closer to God and more in tune with the music of the universe. Make your reservation for class and for lunch (there is a nominal charge for the lunch) and let us begin together to find the right path to grow spiritually and to make our lives better every day. I look forward to having you all join me.
May God be with us as we set out on the journey of discovery and faith as we say… Amen and Shabbat Shalom

Noach

  1. Shabbat Shalom
  1. The problem with the stories of Genesis are always that they seem to be stories for children: Adam and Eve with the “Apple”; the creation of the world, the Garden of Eden and the snake; they all point to cute stories with a moral at the end that can be used to help children understand the world. When we grow up, we think we are too mature for these kinds of fairy tales and we no longer pay very much attention to them. These stories of Genesis get filed away along with the stories of George Washington and the cherry tree, Johnny Appleseed and Paul Bunyan.
  1. I always like to remind my students that the reason these stories are in the Bible is NOT because they have something to tell our children, but because they have a deeper, maybe a darker meaning for adults. There are lots of stories of ancient mythology. Those stories were not included in the Torah. Stories in the Torah are about real human beings and the way we are supposed to live our lives. That is not to say that a Noah really lived and that someday we will find the remains of the Ark. I cannot say if this story is historically true or not. I can only say that there is a truth in this story and it is not kid stuff. We saw last week that the stories of creation can resonate deep within our souls. The story of Noah is no less important.
  1. Rabbi Arthur Waskow summarizes the story of Noah like this: “The story recounts that violence, corruption, ruin were rampant on the earth. God, seeing that the human imagination was drawn toward evil, determined to destroy all life, except for one human family led by Noah, and one pair of every species. God rained death on every being except those who took refuge with Noah on the Ark. One year later, the waters subsided so that these refugees could emerge. And then God, though explicitly asserting once again that the human imagination is drawn toward evil, took an almost opposite tack: God promised that the cycles of life would never be destroyed again, insisted that new rules of behavior must govern human action in the future, and gave the Rainbow as a sign of this covenant.”
  1. Who is this Noah? Is he a master ship builder? Is he known for his skill in handling animals? Is he a skilled weather forecaster? He is none of these things. His only skill is that he is a righteous person. What is God’s role in all of this? Is God a punishing, vengeful deity?  I don’t think so. God is only reacting to the activities of the human beings God created. Only when violence and immorality run rampant in the world is God forced to act. It is the human beings themselves that call down the disaster upon them and only the one man who is not part of the problem is shown a way to avoid the coming disaster.
  1. What are we supposed to learn from this kind of a story? If the Torah teaches us one thing, it is that we human beings are responsible for our actions. The Midrash tells us that God said to the first human being, that he should take care of the earth because there is nobody who will come after you to fix it if you are not careful. In our Parsha, human beings have broken the world and God has to figure out what to do. There has to be consequences for human actions that do not build up the world. The build-up of violence can only lead to destruction.
  1. So our first modern lesson of this story is that if we make a mess of this world, then we will have to suffer the consequences. It is not because God does not love us or that God does not care about is, but we are supposed to be the defenders and protectors of this planet and often we don’t do a very good job. We abuse our environment in many ways. We allow cruelty and violence to increase in our land. What causes this violence? There is plenty of food in this country but somehow we can’t manage to get it to those who are hungry. We spend precious money and fuel to transport our food great distances to get to our table, but we can’t get the food to the homeless and hungry in our own city.
  1. But that is only the beginning of how we abuse our world. There is a story of the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah, the great sinful cities of the generation of Abraham. When a grain merchant came to town, the citizens of the city would come and take but one grain from his bin, but at the end of the day, all the grain was gone yet nobody was responsible since they had only taken one grain. So too, we think that our life is too small to make a difference to the planet. We only put on the lights that we need. We only drive where we need to go. We only buy groceries that we plan to eat. At the end of the day, when we look at the dumpster at the end of the street, we realize that perhaps we are not doing all that we can. How many of us are careful to recycle all the things we can and not just throw it all away as trash?
  1. Our local power company offers a program to help reduce our energy costs. How many of us have taken advantage of that program? Commercials on television give us ideas as to how we can reduce our energy use but how many of us follow that advice. Do we turn off our ceiling fans when we leave the room? Do we fully shut off our electronics, our TV, stereo and computers at the end of the day? Do we unplug our rechargers for our phones? You see, even when they are not recharging our cell phone, they are still using electricity. Do we raise the temperature in our homes and apartments when we go away for the day? Why do we want to air condition or heat our home if we are not there? When we go away on a vacation, we are careful to turn off the lights before we leave, but why don’t we unplug our hot water heater? Did you know that a refrigerator uses less electricity when it is full rather than empty? Will all these actions save our planet? Maybe not alone but if we all take the time to do our own little bit, we can have a really big impact.
  1. Noah was not an expert in flood prevention and still he saved the world. We may not be environmental engineers but we too can save the world. Does one have to be an engineer to exchange regular light bulbs for fluorescent lights? Do we need advanced degrees from college to set up timers on our lights and thermostats to save power? Does it take a great deal of experience to separate paper, plastics and juice boxes from the rest of our trash? How difficult could it be to look for food that is locally grown rather than transported all over the country? We make a big deal over food that may be genetically engineered, but we don’t even bother to complain about food that has in it so many preservatives that it doesn’t even taste like food anymore.
  1. Judaism, from the earliest chapters of the Torah is concerned with saving our planet from waste, from global warming and from human excess. Long before there was an Earth Day, Jews celebrated nature on Tu B’Shevat by planting trees and noting the renewal of the earth from its winter slumber. The Jewish National Fund notes that the State of Israel recycles almost 80 percent of the water that is used. Here in the USA, we recycle only 1 percent of our water.  At the end of our Parsha, the Rainbow is the sign of the promise that God will never again destroy the earth. If the earth is destroyed it will be because we cut down all the trees, because we refused to invest in renewable energy until it was too late. It will be because we waste so much of what we have and recycle so little.
  1. Noah’s Ark, drifting alone on the flooded earth, is a metaphor for this planet, this small ball of rock circling 93 million miles from the sun. Will our greed, our tendency for violence and our disregard for other human beings destroy all the beauty and color and life on this planet or will we make sure that clean air, water and land will eternally be able to combine to form, at the end of a storm, a beautiful rainbow? Will we sit back and let others destroy all that we value in life or will we speak up and do our part to save the great whales, the tiny snail darter and those strange and wonderful plants that could easily be the source of new discoveries that will help us end disease, regenerate life and help to provide food for those around the world who go to bed hungry every night?
  1. We already know what will kill this planet. We can bomb ourselves into extinction. We can pollute ourselves to death or we can poison our atmosphere and water so our lives will become impossible. In a recent issue of Newsweek, Columnist George Will noted that eventually, after millions of years, this planet will cleanse its air, the pollutants will settle out of the water and all will be restored to the way it once was before. The only question I have is if we human beings will be around to see that day, or will we have ceded our place at the top of the food chain to the insects, who can tolerate greater changes in temperature, pollutants and famine then we can? I don’t know about you, but I would hate to give this world over to the ants and the palmetto bugs.
  1. We can argue the science but we can’t argue the results. We know that we can’t go on wasting resources and ignoring our effect on our world. It will not take millions of dollars or millions of years to make a difference. All it takes is for each one of us to care. Can you think of one thing that you can do this week to cut down your energy use or to conserve some part of our environment? Think of one thing and then, just do it. It may only make a small difference in your life, but the overall effect on the earth, could make all the difference in the world.
May God help us to find our way to better use and reuse God’s gifts in this world and may we always give thanks for the beauty and majesty of nature as we say….
            AMEN AND SHABBAT SHALOM

Shemini Atzeret

  1. Hag Sameach
  1. My friend and colleague, Rabbi Robert Scheinberg in New Jersey, recently wrote about Anne Frank, the young girl who died in Auschwitz but left a moving diary of her feelings of hope and faith even during her most difficult days in hiding in Amsterdam. Her diary has been an inspiration to both young and old since its publication after the war. Many people of all faiths visit the house where she and her family hid. It is now a museum dedicated to all those who died in the Holocaust.
  1. Visitors to the museum immediately notice a large chestnut tree that grows just outside the house. Anne Frank mentions this chestnut tree in her diary. During the long months of hiding, it was one of the few things she could see in the outside world. She recorded this in her diary: “From my favorite spot on the floor, I look up at the blue sky and the bare chestnut tree, on whose branches little raindrops shine, appearing like silver, and at the seagulls and other birds as they glide on the wind. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then there will always be comfort for any sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be.”  One of her last entries in her diary was about the chestnut tree being in full bloom.
  1. That tree was over 100 years old when Anne Frank made her observations about it. Like the diary itself, the tree became a symbol of perseverance and hope. It represented not only the eternity and continuity of the world; it also stood for the pain that humans can sometimes inflict on others. Rabbi Scheinberg noted in his remarks, that the last 60 year, since the end of the war, the years have not been very kind to the chestnut tree. Inside, the tree it has been attacked by a fungus; outside, moths have eaten away at it. It had become so bad that the city of Amsterdam finally had to condemn the tree, it was unstable and in danger of falling. They scheduled it for removal.
  1. He writes that it should not surprise anyone that there was an international uproar about plans to chop down the tree. This inspiring symbol just had to be saved. Money was raised. Tree scientists and naturalists from around the world came to Amsterdam to and each made their suggestions as to how the tree could be saved. In 2007, they finally agreed that it WAS possible to save the tree. They constructed a metal brace around the trunk that should have enabled it to survive for several more decades. The trees’ supporters were jubilant. The brace was put in place.
  1. Just last month, in August of this year, during a heavy storm in the city, the chestnut tree was toppled by the wind. The huge tree crashed through gardens, fences and walls. Thank God nobody was hurt. It was now painfully clear that those who wished to save the tree had made a very serious mistake. If the wind of the storm had blown just a bit in a different direction, the Anne Frank house itself would have been demolished. The city came and removed the fallen tree and left behind only the stump. The story of Anne Frank’s chestnut tree was over.
  1. But just a couple of weeks ago, at the end of August, there was a great surprise. From the splintered trunk of the tree, a green shoot was seen growing. There was new life in the trunk of the old tree. The trunk will remain in its place and the next chapter in the life of the chestnut tree is now beginning.
  1. Rabbi Scheinberg writes, “Why make such a big deal about it? It is just a tree. But for so many, the story of the tree seems symbolic of the story of the Shoah and the story of the Jewish people itself. Something that seemed to be eternal – that came perilously close to complete destruction. A symbol of hope that tragically became a source of danger. A somewhat sympathetic international community that reacted too late. A world that seems alternately capricious and terribly unfair and destructive. A living entity that managed to persevere against all odds gaining a new lease on life. [We say in our prayers] “Hashiveny adonai elecha ve-nashuva, hades  yemeinu ke-kedem”  “Return to us, Adonai, and we will return to you. Renew our days as of old. We can understand this in the conventional way, “renew our lives to the condition they were before: or we can understand this in a deeper and richer way by saying, “just as you renewed our lives in the past, helping us to persevere after crises, dislocations and traumas, so may you renew our lives today.”
  1. I have been thinking of this story for weeks now. It is a story that I have been a part of many times. I have watched more times than I can remember, friends and neighbors, who lived wonderful lives, lives that were an inspiration to their families and to many others around them. People who we thought would live forever. But over time, the years were not always so good to them. Disease weakened their bodies from the inside, the trials and tribulations of life weakened them from the outside. My friends remained, for me, the symbol of a life well lived. And out of love for all they had done for us, we worked long and hard to give them as much life as we could.
  1. It is never easy to make the decision to place someone we love so deeply into hospice. We know that the men and women who work in the hospice programs are caring and loving people; that they have dedicated their lives to bringing comfort to those in their final days and to helping them and their families say goodbye. Our problem is not with hospice, but with our own need to come to the realization that nothing is forever. That even those we love, and those who love us, will eventually die. We instinctively want to cling to them forever.  And yet, even when we know that the will to live is powerful and strong, we also know that continuing pain is worse than death and that sometimes death can be better than a life of illness. Sometimes we have to love someone enough to let them go. So we let them go, and we cry. We cry for what we have lost. We cry for the love that is no more. And we cry because all we have are memories of what we once had that is now gone forever.
  1. Now we come to the hour of Yizkor. Yizkor means “May God Remember” and the name comes from the first word of the memorial prayer we recite today. We ask God to remember what we remember, the life, the lessons and the love that was once shared in life that is now gone. But is the love really gone? The life of those we loved may be over but the love still remains. It is the love that we once had that brings us to this service, and I think that it does a lot more for us than we can fully realize.
  1. I like to compare love to the light of a candle. To be sure, a candle flame is not one of the most enduring images in life. The singer, Elton John, in his song, compares love to a candle in the wind. The image is that the flame is always in danger of being extinguished. The mere puff of wind can leave a wick cold and dark, where once stood the warm glow of a flame. Love is very perishable. If we don’t care for the flame, anything can come along and put it out, and even if we do care for it carefully, soon the candle will burn up and the flame will, eventually sputter and die. That is the way it is with candles.
  1. But I also like to remember that the flame of a candle can also be eternal. That from one flame many others may be lit, without reducing the original flame at all. Just like love, we can give love away every day we are alive and never will our capacity to love be diminished. And those other flames we light, can light other candles that can light other candles and soon the whole world is glowing with the light that started with just one flame. When we sit here, contemplating the love that we once had, we realize that the love we once shared still burns in our hearts and we can still share that love, share what we learned about life and meaning with others, who can share it with others, and so the flame of love will never really die.
  1. From the stump of an old tree, grows new shoots. We rebuild our lives on the meaning and messages that our parents, our spouse, our siblings, and yes, even our children leave behind for us after they are gone. If we look at the stump, if we look only at the burned out wick that remains, then we will never notice the golden flame that burns still in our hearts, and we will never notice the new green shoots that are growing from what we once had that now is gone. If we only consider what we have lost, we will always be lost. If we realize what we have because of the love we once shared, we will never find ourselves groping in the dark.
  1. “Hadesh Yemeinu Ke-kedem. Renew are days as of old.” No, this is not about going back to the good old days.  This is not about our vain attempts to make everything just the way it used to be. No matter how hard we try, what is in the past remains in the past. Our hope lies in carrying the memories, the lessons and the love into the future. We don’t pine away for a light that once shined and now is gone, we are supposed to work harder today to insure that we pass on the flame to the generations that will follow ours.
  1. God made our lives richer and more beautiful by allowing us to share our days with those who we remember today, those who were once an important part of our lives but who are now gone. We do not ask God to bring them back. We ask God to make sure that the love we once shared, in spite of the traumas, dislocations and crises in life, we ask God to make sure that we never lose the love we have, and that we never should miss an opportunity to pass it along.
  1. May the memories and tears that this Yizkor service will evoke, inspire us to create the memories and love in the hearts of others, so that the love we remember today will never die but will serve as an inspiration to all those looking for the kind of love we once knew and which still burns inside of us.
May this be the blessing that always gives us strength in our hours of sorrow as we say, Amen and Hag Sameach.
  1. Before we continue with Yizkor there is another tradition that we all must address. The tradition of remembering those we love with a pledge to make a contribution to our synagogue. For thousands of years, synagogues have relied on these contributions to pay for some of the most basic expenses that a shul must cover, electricity, water, repairs of the building and for the ritual items that we need to provide for the spiritual needs of our members. It is important that everyone consider what kind of a Yizkor pledge, what kind of a memorial contribution would be appropriate.
  1. I don’t want to drag out this appeal. There are many special ways to make a contribution in the name of our loved ones. If you have not dedicated a memorial plaque, this is a good time to make that kind of a contribution. If you would like to buy a leaf on our tree of life in the lobby, that too would be an appropriate way to honor those whom we remember this day. Our Siddurim are not even a year old, and dedicating a Siddur would be another way to remember with love, those who are no longer here. You have in your Yizkor books, a pledge card. If you can send a check after the holiday, you can use the envelope to return it by mail to the office. If you would prefer to send a check later, then return the pledge card so we will know your intentions when you send in your gift later.
  1. Help us meet our day-to-day expenses with your memorial gift. Every dollar helps us serve our membership better. I thank you for your generosity and for your participation in this appeal. May God bless you with wonderful memories and the ability to make a difference with a contribution in their name. Thank you and Hag Sameach.

Sukkot

  1. Hag Sameach
  1. The Holidays are early this year. How many of us were thinking this as we gathered for Rosh Hashana just two weeks ago? I kept hearing all kinds of problems that were caused by the Holidays coming so early. I suppose that it would be nice to have Sukkot like Thanksgiving, always on the last Thursday of the month. I suppose that if the date of Sukkot was fixed on the secular calendar, we would have more people attending, after all, it would be easier to plan the holiday if we knew for certain when it would fall each year.
  1.  I guess we have it easier than the Moslems do with the month of Ramadan. They also use the lunar calendar but they don’t correct for the seasons. Ramadan falls one month earlier each year than the year before. Last year, Ramadan coincided with Tishrei. This year it fell during the month of Elul. Next year it will fall during Tammuz. We Jews might think it is ridiculous to have Sukkot fall in the middle of the summer (although it IS still summer here and in Australia, it is spring.)  We like our holidays to stay within the limits of the season. Sukkot is a harvest festival so it needs to be in the harvest season. This does not seem to be an issue with Islam and Ramadan. I guess they don’t have real seasons in Mecca, Saudi Arabia.
  1.  I have a friend who reminds me each year that Jewish holidays never fall early or late. They fall exactly on time, according to the Jewish lunar Calendar. This is the month of Tishrei and Sukkot will always fall on the full moon of Tishrei. Just like Pesach always falls on the full moon of Nisan and Rosh Hashana always falls on the new moon of Tishrei. There is only one holiday that is measured on the solar calendar. That holiday is Shabbat. It comes every seven sunsets no matter what the moon is doing.
  1. I once had a Hazzan who asked me if I could, as Rabbi, declare that Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur fall later in the year so that he would have more time to prepare for the holidays. That would be a skill that I am sure a lot of people would like to have. When you are late for a deadline, you could just insert a day or two and still finish the project on time. Or better, if we have to take some awful medication for three weeks, why not just jump ahead and not have to struggle with the side effects? I am sure that my old Hazzan would have loved to just skip past the holidays and not have to worry about them for another year.
  1. Imagine being able to skip through time. Think of all the money you could make. Skip ahead and see what stocks and bonds have done well, and then skip back and invest in them. Think of all the bets you could win in you knew in advance, who would win the World Series, the Super Bowl and the NBA playoffs!  Think of the donation you could give to Temple Emeth!  OK! OK!  It was only a fantasy. We can’t skip ahead and the holidays come right when they are supposed to on the lunar calendar.
  1. The fact is that we have very little control over time. It marches on, sixty seconds a minute, sixty minutes an hour, 24 hours and a day. We can not stop time, nor can we fast forward time. We have to live in time, in the present, contemplating the past and dreaming of the future. Animals in nature don’t have to deal with time. They live only in the here and now. They eat when they are hungry, sleep when they are tired, play when they are bored and roll around in the mud if they think the weather is too hot. We human beings have “appointments” alongside our “appointed seasons”. 
  1. We usually don’t like to think about the changing seasons and the passing of time. There is so much to do and we are always so busy. We delay and procrastinate the really important things in our lives and fill our days with meaningless chatter. I often think about the final act in the play by Arthur Miller, “Our Town”. In the last act. Emily has died and wants to go back and relive a past day. The others in the graveyard tell her not to do it. That it is a very frustrating and sad thing to do. You get to relive the day, they say, but you also have to see it with eyes that are wise with years. Emily decides to prevent this sadness, she will go back to a happy day, one her birthdays when she was young. But it turns out that it is not a happy day for her to relive. Her parents go about their daily business, wishing her a happy birthday and not realizing the importance of the time that is going by. Emily leaves that day and takes her place in the graveyard. She will no longer wish to go back in time. It just is too sad that we waste all those precious moments.
  1. Sukkot reminds us that the days are indeed getting shorter. Not just in terms of the hours of sunlight and darkness, but that winter is coming, a year has gone by. We find ourselves asking hard questions. What have I done with the time I was given last year? Did I use that time to grow? Did I take a class; spend quality time with people I love, try something new that I always wanted to try? There are some people here today who already bemoan a lost youth, where they failed to accomplish all they had wanted to do. Now we are too old. Now we are too slow. Now we are too weak. We are wiser, but some of us are physically unable to fulfill our dreams. The passing of another year makes us sad.
  1. Who would want to look back on a year like that? It is better to close our eyes to the passing of time and spend the empty hours watching television as if it will make a difference in our lives and meeting with friends so we can talk about trivial things so we don’t have to think about all the time we have wasted. We don’t want to think about the passing days, the months, the years; we rush from place to place avoiding having to confront ourselves.
  1. Sukkot tells us to slow down. It tells us to go outside and take in the world around us. Watch the sunset. Look at the sky at night through the open roof of the Sukkah. When we wave a lulav, it is as if we have become a tree and we can feel what it is like to be pushed around by the gentle breeze. We eat the fruits of the season, enjoying and savoring the flavor of a summer that is ending and we prepare for the winter that will come. Maybe our winters in Florida are not so cold, not so hard that we worry about the weather. Perhaps we treasure the cooler weather after the brutally hot summer. Our friends from up north come down. We wonder if they will be healthy enough to make the trip this year.
  1. Sukkot teaches us that there are no more excuses about getting in touch with our lives. All year long we condition the air in our home to make us more comfortable. We eat foods grown all over the world, no longer tied to seasons, rain and famine. Our electricity pushes back the darkness, powers our entertainment systems and cooks our delicious meals. Only when Sukkot comes do we remember what live was like before these modern conveniences. We say that we will live, for just a few days, as our ancestors did when they traveled through the desert on their way to the Promised Land. We pause to recall our ancestors, living of their land and thanking God for the bounty of the harvest and the certainty that there would be enough food for the winter and for the spring beyond.
 
  1. After the introspection of our lives during the High Holy Days, we need this time to think about the passing of time and if we are passing on the right lessons to our children and grandchildren. Have we made them sensitive to filling each of their minutes with sixty seconds of worthy activities?  Have we showed them how to use the time they have wisely and to treasure every moment of every day.  All too soon tragedy can strike, so we have to take advantage of the good times while we can. I have discovered working with seniors over the years that age is only a limitation if we let it limit our lives. That it is never too late to learn something new. It is never too late to take a class, to teach a class or to see an old situation in a new light. Every June we find someone in their seventies or eighties who has finally receiving the college degree they always wanted. Scientists tell us that it is never too late to start lifting weights and exercising. Everyone can benefit from a healthy lifestyle, no matter what their age.
 
  1. No matter if the holidays are early or late, now is the time to pay attention to the passing of time and to resolve again to use the time we have left to the best of our abilities. A legacy can be more than just money and property that we leave behind after we have died. A legacy can be learned by our children from watching how we use our time so they will see just how priceless time can be. These days of Sukkot help us to come to terms with our lives, to face the realities of our environment and ask the hard questions about who we are and where we going and if we are going in a direction that our loved ones approve and our God approves. 
  1. We may not be able to control if our days are passing too quickly or if they are dragging forward painfully slow.  All we can do is live each moment as if it really counts. All we can do is to make the most of the time we have and not squander the gift of time that we have been given. As we sit in the Sukkah this year, let us face the future proudly and live each moment honorably and lovingly. 
May God help us use every minute wisely and may the passage of time always be for a blessing as we say, Amen and Hag Sameach

Yom Kippur

  1. Gemar Hatima Tova – May we all be sealed for Life in the New Year.
  1. My good friend Rabbi Stuart Weinblatt from the Washington DC area shared a note he recently received from someone asking a question. The person wrote, “Dear Rabbi, I am struggling with the issue of why should I repent, ask forgiveness and try and be a better person when everyone around me does not try to be a better person? When everyone else around me is full of evil thoughts, words and deeds? It is so hard to find it within myself to change and forswear bad behaviors when every day I am confronted with those who act badly against me.”
  1. I thought to myself when I read this letter that here is a person in a great deal of pain and who is becoming very cynical about life and the nature of the world. I suppose if I were a psychologist or a social worker, I would find evidence of all kinds of issues in this letter. I am only a Rabbi and when I saw that letter I began to think about who this person might be and how I would pen my response to this letter.
  1. Life would be so much easier if we did not have to worry about who we have hurt and if we have had our revenge on those who have hurt us. If we didn’t have to be a better person each year, we could go on our merry way, happy with ourselves just the way we are and if anyone has a problem with that, well, that is their problem not ours.  If someone is mean and nasty to me well, I can show them that I can dish it out as well as I can take it. I am just as happy to give back to others what they have dished out to me.
  1. These feelings of frustration are not unique to our age. In Psalm 28, King David says, “Do not count me with the wicked and evil-doers who profess goodwill toward their fellows while malice is in their heart. Pay them according to their deeds, their malicious acts; according to their handiwork, pay them and give them their desserts.”  Or see Psalm 27, the Psalm we recite during this penitential season, it reads, “When evil men assail me, to devour my flesh – it is they, my enemies who stumble and fall.” From ancient times, human beings have called upon God to punish their enemies and vindicate those who do good.
  1. It is hard, going through life seeing wicked people prosper. For every Scott Rothstein and Bernie Madoff who get caught, we know that there are many others, just like them, who are too clever to come to the attention of those who would punish them. The CEO’s who cut corners at the expense of those of us who rely on their products or who risk environmental catastrophe to insure investors have a decent return and if the worst happens, then they clean it up with the money they can recover from the profits of just one day. It does not matter if they are in the Gulf of Mexico or in suburban San Francisco, in corporate America, is easier and cheaper to get forgiveness than it is to get permission.
  1. Rudyard Kipling knew this kind of frustration. In his poem, “If” where he gives advice to his son, he notes at the very beginning that life can be frustrating. He writes, “If you can keep your head when all about you, others are losing theirs and blaming it on you.” We have learned, from a very early age that honesty is the best policy and cheaters never prosper. But we look around us in life and find that these maxims are honored more in the breach than in reality. We might hope that bad and malicious people will get what is coming to them, and when they do we might even gloat. But most of the time, people full of evil thoughts, words and deeds seem to not only get away with their lies, but they seem to find their way faster up the ladder of success. Is it any wonder our letter writer is contemplating joining their ranks?
  1. It is so hard to be the only one who does not cheat on our income taxes. It is so hard to be the only one who is stopping at the red light and driving at the posted speed limit. Don’t we wish that our investments would benefit from insider trading? Why to I have to be the only one who, when there is a billing error in my favor, that I let them know that I really do owe them more money then they have calculated?
  1. Clearly, Judaism wants us to be that one person. If necessary, the only person who is doing good when others are following the crowd to do evil. Remember Abraham, when he argued with God over the fate of Sodom and Gemorra? The number of good people that could save the cities became smaller and smaller until God agreed that if there were 10 good people in the entire city, God would spare Sodom its fate. Just ten good people in a city of tens of thousands. All it takes is ten good people and destruction could be averted. But there is only one in the city, and after he is removed, the city is destroyed.
  1. This afternoon, we read a similar story. Jonah is sent to Nineveh, to preach to the city to get them to repent before God destroys them. Jonah tries to run away from this commission but he is returned to where he needs to be and he finally begins a three day trek through Nineveh to convince the people to repent. Jonah is so good at his job, that there are not just ten good people found to spare the city, the entire city, from the King on down repents their actions and so God spares them. Jonah is upset that he now feels like a fool, preaching destruction and now all is forgiven. God has to remind the prophet that sparing life, animal or human, is a mitzvah.
  1. At first, there are not even ten good people in Nineveh. But by the end of the story, the entire city has repented of their evil and the destruction has been averted. This is a story of the power of repentance. We do not have to be perfectly good to save ourselves and our families in the New Year. We only have to be committed to doing better as the year begins.  If Teshuva, return, is our goal as the year begins, God will give us the chance to try again.
  1. Rabbi Shai Held, one of the great upcoming new scholars in the Jewish world, has taught recently that God wants us to find ourselves. But, he then notes that if this is God’s goal, why is God always scripting our lives? How can we find ourselves if we have no real choice but to follow the Torah?  After all, the Torah teaches us that to follow Torah is life, to reject Torah is death and we must choose life. But what kind of a choice is that? Who, in their right mind anyway, would choose death? Rabbi Held goes on to say that the role of the Torah’s script is to help us rise above all the other scripts that are given to us by the many other forces in society, forces like capitalism and our drive for power. The purpose of our faith is to free us from the false needs and wants that distract us from our goals with their allure and call. We all know that we need to do good, but the other forces in our lives, the need to earn a living, to get along with others and the seductive call  to celebrate today and don’t worry about tomorrow, these all beckon to us to forget Torah and follow their lead.  The script of the Torah, of Judaism, helps us keep our focus on doing what is right and good and not let our other drives take control of our lives.
  1.  We live in a time of great anger. In many ways, anger is the script that is most in use in our country today. We don’t talk to each other, we yell at each other. We don’t care about the point of view of someone else, we only care that everyone else should be as angry as we are. It has become fashionable to speak in superlatives. One mistake by a politician indicates a “hidden” agenda”. Rumors pass themselves off as news items. Fact checking is what you do on a slow news day. Something is not wrong as long as it is “partly” right, or at least could be correct given an unusual or rare set of circumstances. To get good ratings, you have to say outrageous things. Things that fuel the flames of anger higher. There is no such thing as compromise anymore, you are either with me or against me. The only good is that which is perfect and anything less then perfect is to be despised.
  1. There are some who say that the script of Torah is no different. The Halacha, Jewish Law is immutable and unchanging. One can either keep the law, in every aspect or one is a complete sinner. Sometimes it seems that every day there are new ways to look at old laws. A Haredi Rabbi this past year suddenly announced that “Shabbat Elevators” which automatically stop at every floor on Shabbat, are no longer permitted on Shabbat. That suddenly, these elevators became an illegal form of riding on Shabbat. I don’t know what prompted this change in Halacha after almost a century of elevator riding, but it stranded many observant Jews on the upper floors of very tall buildings for Shabbat. I don’t really mind that there are some Jews who will not ride an elevator on Shabbat, but to insist that one is not Shabbat observant if you do ride them, seems to defy all logic.
  1. In truth, the script that the Torah puts out for us is very different than the angry Torah that the Haredi Jews defend so mightily. We understand that religion is not a matter of pure right versus wrong, or a recipe for getting on God’s good side. In my mind, anyone who presumes to know what God wants or what will make God “happy” is preaching a caricature of religion, but not a true faith. If we have learned anything in this multicultural nation in which we live, a nation founded on the principle of religious freedom, it is that there are as many ways to find God as there are people. What is important to faith is not how to get there, but the journey between selfishness and true freedom. The Torah is a very interesting book. While it begins with the creation of the world, the largest part of the text is devoted to a journey, the journey of the People of Israel as they travel from Egypt (The narrow place of slavery) to the land of promise, the land of milk and honey. What makes the Torah intriguing is that the People of Israel, like Moses himself, never get to the Promised Land. It takes 400 years to get out of Egypt and another 40 years to get Egypt out of the People. But the Torah never takes them across the Jordan River. Faith is not found in arriving, it is found it the Journey.
  1. Many Rabbis use this story of the People of Israel as a metaphor for our journey through life. We leave the “narrow place” from where we are born, and life is a journey, but we do not know where we are going. Some say that where we are going depends on where the journey in life takes us. Others say that we decide where we want to end up and all of life is about how we direct ourselves to the goal.
  1. I get asked all the time about what Jews believe happens after we die. This is certainly a big concern for Christianity and for Islam too. It is not such a big concern in Judaism. The Rabbis teach that we really don’t know what the next world will bring. Nobody has ever come back to tell us what happens there. We can only believe that what is next is better than what we have here and that if we do good in this world, it will serve us well in whatever may come at the end of our journey.
  1. There is a telling story, a Midrash, about a man who wanted so badly to know the difference between heaven and hell that he prayed incessantly to be given the chance to see both.  Finally, to get him to stop his nagging, an Angel appeared and told him that since live people could not enter either heaven or hell, the best that could be done is to show the man the first house inside heaven and the first house inside hell and he would have to be satisfied with that.
  1. The first stop was in hell, the first house was a rather ordinary stone house with a thatch roof. There was a light shining from the window, and inside the man saw a large table filled with all kinds of delicious looking and delicious smelling food. All around the table, people were sitting, plates piled high with all kinds of good food and they were holding a knife and fork in each hand. But nobody was eating. Each person had his arms tied to a splint so that they could pick the food up off their plates, but could not get it into their mouths.  “OY” said the man, “This truly is hell!” The Angel then took him away.
  1. Soon they came to the first house in Heaven. It was a rather ordinary stone house with a thatch roof. There was a light shining from the window, and inside the man saw a large table filled with all kinds of delicious looking and delicious smelling food. All around the table, people were sitting, plates piled high with all kinds of good food and they were holding a knife and fork in each hand. Just like in hell, each person had his arms tied to a splint so that they could pick the food up off their plates, but could not get it into their mouths. The difference in heaven was that around this table, the people were feeding each other.
  1. The difference between heaven and hell is not something that is outside of ourselves; the difference is found inside. We decide if the circumstances of our lives are to be heaven or if they will be a living hell. There is nothing in hell that prevents the residents from feeding each other except for their own stubbornness and selfishness. Everyone at the table in hell could be well fed and happy but their inability to see and feel for each other keeps them hungry and unhappy. This is the story of our journey through life. Our happiness does not depend on others, we decide for ourselves if we will be concerned for each other or if we will only look out for ourselves. Either choice is possible but one will make us happy and well fed, the other choice leads to a constant hunger that gnaws at our belly.
  1. The good people in our life tried to teach us this lesson. Our parents, our mentors, our teachers, all tried to show us that the script of Torah was a way of love, care, concern for each other, a way where we are instructed to lend a hand to those in need and  to depend on others in our own time of sickness and sorrow. What we give, we also receive. If we are mean, nasty miserable people, nobody will want to be our friend. If we decide, instead to be kind loving and caring people, everyone will want to be our friend. Maybe there are no guarantees in life that it will all work out this way, but you don’t need a public opinion survey to see that, more often than not, this is the way of the world. And this is the way of Torah.
  1. To be fair, I have to say that there is a downside to being kind, loving and caring. I once rushed to the hospital where a woman, 97 years old had just been told that she is dying, and did not have much longer to live. I found her in the emergency room, with her 65 year old daughter sitting by her side. The elderly woman looked at me and said, “Rabbi, I am 97 years old. I have led a really wonderful life. I have children I am proud of; I have accomplished all that I ever wanted to do. Life has been good to me and I am dying with no regrets at all. But Rabbi, I need you to do one favor for me. I am ready to die and I don’t face it with any fear. So please tell my family that they don’t have to mourn when I am gone, tell them not to cry, because I have been so happy with my life.”
  1. I looked at this serene woman and said to her, “I think you need to mind your own business.” She looked at me shocked but I went on, “It really doesn’t matter that you lived the perfect life. The fact is, when you are gone, your children will miss you.  They will miss your love, your caring, your opinions and your advice. And when they miss you, they will cry. There is nothing you or I can do or even should do to stop it. If you had been a bad mother and friend, they would not care. No, you had to be loving, caring and considerate. Those tears are the price we pay for losing someone we love.”
  1. We are approaching the hour of Yizkor. The time we allot in this most holy day to remember those who we loved, and who loved us. Today is one of the days we have to pay the price for all that love we shared for the all too short time they spent in this world with us. I attend daily minyan and I see, almost every day, people who brave the tears and the broken heart all over again just to be in shul and remember a father, a mother, a sister, a brother, a spouse or partner, or, God help them, to remember a child who is no longer in this world. Even 10, 20 or 40 years later, that love lives on in their hearts. For some of us here, we mourn family who died almost a half century ago. But the love we have for them is still strong in our hearts, and we remain grateful for the influence for good in our life that can never be erased. What more could we want from life but to be remembered for good, for love and for our compassion? What better memorial could we build?
  1. There are people who will not repent on this Yom Kippur. There are those who say that there is no God, that what we do makes no difference to the universe. All that there is, is what we can see, anything else is just fantasy and fairy tale. The only force that forms the universe is gravity and that is all that is holding the cosmos together. It does not matter to the universe if we are good or bad, only that we survive; that is the source of ultimate meaning.
  1. That is not the path of Torah, that is not the script that our Machzor, our faith, our Torah would have us follow in life. What we do does make a difference, perhaps not to the universe but to those who love us and to those we love. We can choose to ease the burden of another, to feed the hungry, care for the sick, console the mourner or we can look the other way and look out only for our self. That is the choice that the Torah places before us, and we are commanded to choose life, a life of kindness, not anger; a good life, and not an evil life; a life of acts of loving kindness, not bad behavior. Life may be easier if we give in to looking out only for ourselves, but life is richer, meaningful and deeply satisfying, when we repent of our mistakes and choose each year, to live a better and more holy life.
  1. Rabbi Weinblatt wrote in his reply to the letter he received, “I believe, with all my heart, that being a good person makes us better people. It is not just a tautology, to not be a forgiving person, turns us into bitter people.” I might add that we are free to choose a sweet life or a bitter life. I have chosen the path of sweetness, love and harmony. In my life, that has made all the difference.
May we be blessed in the year ahead, with forgiveness, and with being forgiven. May we spread not hatred or anger, but love and compassion and may we, whenever it may be our time to die, may we leave behind warm memories, loving hearts and lots and lots of tears.  May we be sealed for life this year, a sweet life, a life of holiness and a life filled with love as we say … AMEN AND GEMAR TOV.
  1.  Look around you for a second. What do you see? Hundreds of Jews gathering to remember loved ones who have died? If you were the county Fire Marshall, what would you see if you looked around you? Would you notice the state of the art fire prevention and alert system installed? What if you were a furniture sales representative? Would you see the chairs and pews people are sitting on? Would you see this as a sign that some good salesman was here before you or would you see that there is the making of a large order in this room? What if you were selling a Machzor? Would you see a need for newer books? Do you know that the new Machzorim sell for $27.00 each? There are 1300 people here, that amounts to $35,000 dollars just to replace what we have. Can you imagine our electric bill for these holidays? Plus the fact that we need a repair service and a plumber on call, it would not be a good thing if the Air Conditioner would go out or the rest rooms would flood.
  1. Security is also an issue. To be sure we do not want to be a target of terrorists who would find so many Jews in one place an enticing target. But what about all the cars in the parking lot? We need to makes sure that nobody steals from our cars while we are praying inside. Cleanliness is also an issue, somebody has to come through this room, at the end of the service, to pick up the trash, to reset the seats and make sure that those who come later will have a book and a clean seat to sit in. The Rabbi and Cantor put in hourse to prepare for this day, as does our Administrator, our secretarial staff and a small army of volunteers.
  1. I know that everyone bought a ticket to attend this morning, but I really don’t need to tell you that the ticket prices do not come close to paying for all the expenses of Temple Emeth. Like all synagogues, we depend on donations to keep our doors open and to pay our most basic bills. It is the generous donations of others that made Temple Emeth possible, and if we are to continue to offer services here, and continue grow and expand what we have to offer, we will need your help.
  1. If you are not a member of Temple Emeth, that is the first level of help. Your membership tells us that you care about what we do here and that you are willing to attach your name to all that we are trying to accomplish. When you join Temple Emeth, you have become part of a thriving Jewish community right here in Delray Beach. It can be the portal to connect you and your family to the greater Jewish world. Just call us or stop by after the holiday and our Membership office will be glad to help you become a valued part of our synagogue.
  1. If you are already a member of Temple Emeth, Thank you for your care and your support. You already know that there are many ways your donations to our congregation help us meet the rising costs of the most basic necessities for a congregation. You already know that we offer far more that just Holiday services, that we offer educational programs, social programs and entertainment programs throughout the year. We have daily, Shabbat and Holidays services and we have them seven days a week, twice a day, 365 days a year. And we rely on the donations of members and guests to help us keep the doors open and to keep the quality of our programs high.
  2.  As we remember those we love at Yizkor, we need to remember that every donation we make in their memory or in honor of the living goes a long way to improving Temple Emeth. This year, through the generosity of the Leopold family, we were able to upgrade and replace the Siddurim we use on Shabbat and at daily minyan. Now we need your help. Your Yizkor pledge can make a difference to someone who cannot afford, in these difficult economic times, to join a synagogue, so we don’t have to turn anyone away. Your Yizkor pledge can help pay the ongoing bills that yes, even a synagogue has to pay. We make these holidays look so easy, but we can do it because we can rely on your support and your generosity.
  1.  I know that, at your seat, you have a pledge card. We are not like a church, where we can pass a plate and take cash donations. We rely on the promises of those who pray with us to help us grow and flourish. I can tell you that every year there are those who think that someone else should be giving the money. That there are others, wealthier than I am, who should step up.  I just can’t make a donation.
  1. We are not asking today for large sums of money. If you can give it, great. If not, any amount will do. The cost of a dinner for two is $50. Since we are not eating today, can we ask for the cost of one meal to help Temple Emeth? To replace a Bible takes a donation of $100 dollars. We are also starting advanced dues categories for those who are able to give more. Advanced dues include not only membership but High Holiday tickets as well. We have many opportunities for larger gifts and multi year donations. In addition to the Machzorim, we are looking to replace our Humashim and we are looking for someone to sponsor our Scholar in Residence program and other aspects of our Yeshivat Emet program for Continuing Jewish Education.
  1. Please take your pledge card, fold down the tab that you think could best help Temple Emeth and hold it up for the ushers to collect. As soon as we are finished, we will begin our Yizkor Service. I should call your attention to the addition this year of a prayer for those who still have a living parent. We invite everyone to join us, in just a few moments as we begin the prayers of Yizkor. 

Kol Nidre

  1. Tzom Kal, I wish everyone an easy fast. A Rabbi once told me that we should not ask for an easy fast because it is the hunger on Yom Kippur that makes our Teshuva so urgent. Maybe. But I don’t believe in unnecessary suffering so I still wish everyone an easy fast.
  1. We live in a world of crisis.  There is the crisis in Afghanistan, the crisis in the Gulf of Mexico, the crisis in Haiti, the economic crisis etc. etc. There are so many crises in the world that it is even affecting President Obama, who many claim has a leadership crisis in the White House.  I don’t want to belittle any of these issues. Some of them have global consequences and some of these crises affect the way we live our lives. I will leave it to the political pundits on Fox News and MSNBC to analyze the implications of these and other crises, but there is one crisis that I do need comment on.  It is the crisis in Conservative Judaism.
  1. Conservative Judaism has been in crisis for many years. Ever since the 1970’s our movement has been in a slow decline. Membership is falling in all Conservative congregations. There has been much discussion about if we need a Conservative Movement at all. Some of our members have become more traditional and find themselves drawn to Modern Orthodox congregations. Some feel we are not liberal enough and have found their way to Reform Congregations. In a world where there is only a left and a right, is there a place for a movement in the middle?
  1. There is also the problem that young people don’t really pay any attention to denominations and labels anymore. Young Jews today want a traditional congregation that is also egalitarian. They live in a world where there are thousands of choices as to what they should believe, so they don’t make any decision at all unless they absolutely have to. Jews today want to know what our movement stands for, what do we believe in, who represents our interests on the world stage? These are important questions and Conservative Judaism, for the past four decades, didn’t have any answer to give.
  1. It is not just a problem for young Jews. All Jews find themselves wondering why they belong to a Conservative congregation. What do we get for our dues? Is the only reason we join so we can have a Rabbi at our funeral? How will my life be different or better because I am a member? How will my membership change the world? I am sure that all of you, who have been members of congregations all of your lives, I am sure that you have asked these questions yourself at one time or another and may even have discovered some answers that speak to the way your life has unfolded. But does our personal example translate into a reason others should join?
  1. Over the years, Rabbis have gathered to discuss and debate what we should be doing to save our movement. Our Synagogue organization, United Synagogue for Conservative Judaism (USCJ) is going through a strategic planning process to better serve the congregations that are in need of help. It will take most of next year to begin to see the effects of those changes; in fact, it will be later this fall until we will even know what changes they are looking to make.
  1. Two of the most respected Rabbis in our movement, Rabbi Harold Kushner, who is a best selling author and well known lecturer, and Rabbi David Wolpe, an author and Spiritual Leader of Sinai Temple in Los Angeles, one of the few congregations that seem to be doing the right things, got together and spoke about why our movement is in so much trouble and what we should do about it.
  1. Rabbi Kushner remarked that Conservative Judaism does not have a coherent message. The problem is that there are two different Conservative Judaisms fighting with each other. There is the Academic Conservative Judaism of the Rabbis and Scholars, who see our philosophy as one of great complexity and our laws as being very intricate. These Rabbis think that Judaism is just fine the way it is and if we leave it alone, its fundamental goodness will eventually shine through and all will be attracted to it. That is how Judaism has always been. On the other side is the Conservative Judaism of the pews, of the laypeople in our movement. They don’t know who the great Rabbis and scholars are (Think about it? Have you ever heard of the great scholars of our movement? Louis Ginzberg, Simon Greenberg, Robert Gordis, Soloman Schechter, and two I mentioned on Rosh Hashana, Louis Finkelstein and Abraham Joshua Heschel? Do you know anything at all about what they taught and why they are OUR scholars and not part of any other movement?)  The Conservative Judaism of the pews demands from our movement the ability to be BOTH proud Americans and proud Jews. We want our Judaism to be able to coexist with our American way of life.
 
  1. Our friends on the Right in Judaism might say to us, “No, you can’t have both.  American life will “contaminate” Judaism and water it down until we will not be able to recognize it anymore.”  Our friends on the Left in Judaism might say to us, “Why do we need these medieval laws anymore? They prevent us from experiencing the sublime aspects of American life.” Rabbi Kushner said that the role of our movement is to help our members have the best of both experiences.
  1. Rabbi Wolpe explained that when he was in Rabbinical School, he was taught that the role of the Rabbi was to explain American life to the Jewish people. Wolpe objected saying that the new problem was to explain Judaism to the American people. Jews in America didn’t need anyone to tell them about American life, they needed someone to explain why their Judaism was important.
  1. Wolpe called these Americans, “immigrants” to our services.  I have enough members here to understand that metaphor. How many here remember what it is like to be called a “greenhorn”? When you are an immigrant, you don’t know the culture, you don’t know the customs and you make a lot of embarrassing mistakes. Do you remember your first baseball game or first Independence Day celebration? Perhaps you will understand then, how someone feels when they find themselves in our service, trying to figure it all out and someone says, “you are sitting in my seat”. You might as well call them “greenhorn”, it is that embarrassing.
  1. In the early days of our movement, we used to say that we were the movement of “Tradition and Change”. We believed in tradition and also understood that change was necessary. That only works when the Jews are traditional and need to learn about change. When Jews come to shul without any knowledge of tradition, how are we supposed to help them understand why it is so important? They have lived without it so long that they often don’t see how it can make a difference in their lives.
  1. At the end of his remarks, Rabbi Wolpe said that what Conservative Judaism needed was a “bumper sticker” a short phrase that would sum up what we believe so that everyone will be able to relate to the movement. Rabbi Wolpe, who is from California, wanted to reduce our understanding of Judaism to an expression 4-6 words long. (I guess they have short attention spans in California) but the idea is really not so far fetched as we might think. The great Sage Hillel, in the Talmud summed up all of Judaism as “That which is hateful to you, do not do to others, the rest is commentary, go out and study it.”  That may be a bit long, but we all remember it. Rabbi Akiva summed up Judaism with the biblical quote, “Love your Neighbor as Yourself”.
  1. This is not about reducing our faith to a simplistic phrase. A slogan can represent much that is complex and difficult. For example, the proverb, “Man does not live by bread alone” is a simple way of saying that human life is very complex. There are many things that are as important to us as eating. So it is with our movement. We need a slogan that will express all that Conservative Judaism has to offer. 
  1. When Rabbi Kushner, who is older and has more congregational experience than Rabbi Wolpe (although both are giants in our movement), was asked what he thought of Rabbi Wolpe’s suggestion, he said that the first thing that came to his mind as a slogan for  Conservative Judaism was: “Asher Kiddeshanu B’Mitzvotav”. It was his introduction to a longer reaction to Rabbi Wolpe and most people didn’t pay much attention to it. But the more I thought about it, the more I liked the slogan. In the months since the lecture, there have been all kinds of discussions among rabbis and non-rabbis as to what our movement stands for. I find myself coming back to Rabbi Kushner, intrigued by the implications of his slogan.
  1. Many Rabbis want Conservative Judaism to be a Halachic movement. That is, it should be guided by Jewish Law and the rules that govern how the law should grow and change. They are not happy when Rabbis and our movement’s leadership make decisions about how we practice Judaism decisions that do not depend on traditional ways of interpreting at Jewish Law.  I compare them to Supreme Court Justices who make rulings on American Law looking only to the Constitution as their guide as to what the law should be.
  1. Another way of seeing Halacha is to understand what the law is trying to accomplish and then changing the law so that it can better do what it was designed to do. This is like the Supreme Court Justices who rule based on “commons sense” rules and “How do other countries handle these problems, and will that solution work in our country?” When Halacha is in conflict with moral or other laws, we may need to let the law lapse so that Halacha, the rest of Jewish Law will not become immoral and unethical.
  1. This is the beauty of Rabbi Kushner’s slogan. Asher Kiddishanu B’Mitzvotav, taken from the formula for blessings in Judaism, is an amazing statement of how Conservative Judaism looks at Judaism and why it should appeal to all American Jews.  It speaks directly to the issue of what Judaism is all about from our point of view and why it should be so important in our lives.
  1. We translate the slogan as “Who has sanctified us with Commandments” or perhaps we could paraphrase it as, “Who makes us Holy through Mitzvot” it has a number of elements that are important for Conservative Jews to think about and understand.
  1. First of all, What do we mean when we say “Who”? (sounds like an Abbot and Costello routine: “What throws the ball to Who”) Who is the one making us holy? Who is the source of the Commandments? The answer, of course, is God. God is the power; God is the force behind everything that we do as Jews. We live with faith in God. We express, in prayer, our love for God. And most important of all, we believe that God loves us. The late Rabbi Sydney Greenberg, once wrote, “A loving parent does not show genuine love by telling a child, “Do whatever you want.” That would not indicate love, but lack of concern and abdication of responsibility. The truly loving parent says to the child, “I care very much about you, and although I cannot live your life for you, I want you to have the benefit of my experience.”
  1. God is our divine parent. God loves us enough not to leave us alone in the world, but God gives us Torah and Mitzvot as guides to living a moral and meaningful life. We may rebel against the commandments of the Torah from time to time, but once we realize that Mitzvot are not evidence of God throwing divine weight around in our lives, that Mitzvot are the evidence that God cares very much about us and our welfare, that is the moment when we accept God’s words, God’s commands, and God’s love into our lives.
  1. So what are Commandments, What are Mitzvot that they are so important? They are not mere suggestions that God shared with us, nor is God telling us that keeping Mitzvot is a “good idea”. In the United States, laws are made by human beings and subject to change and amendment all the time. Even morality that seems to have absolute lines between right and wrong has those lines move as times change. Commandments are God’s way of telling us that there are some things we need to do and there are some things that we must not do. We live better lives when we know what God wants and when we live each day according to God’s command.
  1. And here is the problem. What exactly are these “Commandments”? I don’t mean, what is the list of things we are supposed to do or not to do, but what is the reason, what is the purpose behind the system of Mitzvot? Are they required actions in our life, or do they point to a better way of living? For example, is keeping Kosher about how long we need to wait between eating Milk and Meat, or is Kashrut about kindness to animals and paying attention to the things that go into our mouths? Is Kashrut only about a painless way to slaughter animals or does it extend to the way the animal should be treated before it is slaughtered and does it extend also to the way the workers at the slaughterhouse are treated?
  1. The key here is the third word, “Kiddishanu” “Sanctification”. “Holiness.”  God’s commandments must be for the purpose of bringing holiness into our lives. When we find a commandment that no longer achieves this purpose, we have to abrogate it for others which do fulfill that purpose. In Conservative Judaism, when the prohibition of driving on Shabbat began to keep Jews out of synagogue because of suburban sprawl, attending services became more important than the prohibition of driving a car. While it still may be preferable to walk instead of driving on Shabbat, since Shabbat is about more than just synagogue and services, still this change emphasized the importance of davening as a community. When the role of women in society changed so that it was no longer considered an insult to have a woman lead a service, the law was changed to give women a greater role in synagogue life. To do less would no longer be ethical, it would be an example of sexism and bias.
  1. The Dean of the Rabbinical School at the Jewish Theological Seminary, Rabbi Daniel Nevins, has written, “Halakah should be understood as the practice of walking with God.  God’s commands give structure to the walk but so do God’s values as they are portrayed in the sacred literature. If God is said to be (in Psalms) “good to all, God’s mercy is upon all God’s works,”  then our imitation of God had better be good and merciful.” …  “ Halakah” is often understood as a noun, as an established body of law. But this definition is inaccurate. Halakah is a dynamic system, not a code. Even the Halachic codes composed by Joseph Karo and Maimonides are surrounded by commentary, like a garden path bordered by plants. Halacha is a living, changing system, not a fixed and limited object.”
  1. Commandments must make our lives more holy. We often were trained as children to see Mitzvot as rules that make our lives harder. Mitzvot limit the things we can do and sometimes, the details of the Halacha seem petty and irrelevant. Perhaps holiness means that we see Jewish law differently, that one violation does not constitute a “gotcha” moment that establishes all of our Halachic decisions to be untrustworthy. This is what we mean when we say that Mitzvot must make us Holy. That we place value in the spirit of the law, rather than in the extended letter of the law. This is not to say that pious people are not holy. But how we Conservative Jews choose to live by the Mitzvot is more important than the Mitzvot themselves.
  1. Rabbi David Hartman, the philosopher and founder of the Hartman Institute in Jerusalem, writes, “Maimonides guides us toward the knowledge of God’s ethical attributes, God’s desire to do justice in the world, to pursue kindness. That is what Maimonides understood as the ultimate knowledge of God. To know God is to become a person who lives in an ethical dimension. Ethics is not separated from faith or ritual but rather it becomes the embodiment of the God seeker.” If we seek to bring God into the world, we best remember what the Prophet Micah said, “What is required is to do justice, love mercy and walk humbly with God.” Asher Kiddishanu B’Mitzvotav, teaches us to keep our eye on the holy and not sweat the details.
  1.  There is, I believe another value that comes from using the Hebrew phrase “Asher Kidishanu B’Mitzvotav” more than its English translation. The phrase in Hebrew is readily understood and most Jews are well practiced in saying these words. We say them on Shabbat, Holidays and Hanukah when we light candles. It is part of the Kiddush. We recite these words whenever we are about to perform a Mitzvah, like shaking a Lulav or blowing the Shofar. These words tie us to the words of Torah through the Mitzvot and to God who gave us these commandments. They teach us that there are some ideas that don’t translate well from the sacred language of Hebrew into the more secular English. In Hebrew these words carry a symbolic value that is lost in translation.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
  1.  If our movement can just focus on this, Asher Kidishanu B’Mitzvotav, if Conservative Judaism would only focus on how our commitment to Mitzvot will add holiness to our lives, our members will become more confident in who we are and our movement will only grow stronger. When somebody should ask us, “What do Conservative Jews believe?” we can say that we believe that what is most important in our understanding of Judaism is “Asher Kiddishanu B’Mitzvotav” that God loves us so much that we are given Mitzvot which will add holiness into our lives. All the rest is commentary. We should go out and study it.
May God help us live a Judaism in the year ahead which is kind, meaningful and a Judaism that will lift up our souls in holiness as we say…..
AMEN AND GEMAR TOV.

Rosh Hashanah Day 1

  1. L’shana Tova U’metuka – I wish everyone a good and sweet New Year.
  1. I want to begin by welcoming everyone home. We come from many different places but here we are all home. We may have last been in a synagogue yesterday, last Shabbat, last month, at the end of last season or perhaps we have not been in a synagogue since last year. But I welcome everyone. I welcome those who may be coming to synagogue for the first time in many years. I welcome those of you who are young, and those who are old and all those of ages in between. I welcome those who will be here only three days and those who will join us only for three hours.  I welcome you to synagogue if you have doubts about why you are here, about why you should pray and if you have doubts about God. I welcome to synagogue today both saints and sinners, both scholars and novices and even those who are not sure why they are here but their presence in shul today makes someone they love happy. Look around you. The people sitting next to you, behind you, in front of you, are not really all that different from you. So take a moment to say hello and since we will be together for these holidays, introduce yourself and your family so that for these days we can all be sitting with friends.
  1. I want to begin with a story, one of my favorite stories, of a man named Itzik who lived in Cracow. One night he had a dream, a castle, a river and a bridge. The voice said to him: “Itzik, the river is the Danube, the castle is in Budapest and under the bridge is a treasure that is waiting for you….. (Tell story)
  1. The reason I like to tell this story is because it has a moral, a teaching that we learn from Itzik and his dreams. The moral of the story is: The treasure is in Cracow but knowledge of the treasure is in Budapest.”  Sometimes, in order to know the treasure that we have, we have to travel far and wide to realize its value and to appreciate its place in our life.
  1. I am guessing that our experience of the High Holy Days is probably off to a rocky start. From the moment we arrived, took our seats and picked up the Machzor, we probably started wondering, “What we are doing here?” This book, this Machzor, for most of us, is very strange. The prayers it contains are long and complicated and often it is not clear what these prayers are trying to say. Even if we have come to shul all our lives, this service would still be filled with words that are unfamiliar and prayers that are difficult to understand. Rosh Hashana is not just another service at the synagogue. It is a pageant, a performance and a ritual that places each of us as the central character and the prayers we recite call to each of us in unique and different ways.
  1.  But, for the experienced davener and the novice alike, this prayer book, this Machzor, is filled with much that instills within us feelings that are not always so pleasant. Some of us may be confused by the long Hebrew passages that are between familiar prayers. Some of us may be angry at the rampant sexism and nationalism that fills these pages. Some of us may be doubtful that a God who seems to depend so much on praise might have some kind of an influence in our lives, and some may find the words of prayers downright disturbing, and we may wonder, “if there is a God that could do all these terrible things, then why would I want to pray to that God?”
  1. So a few comments as I begin. First of all, we are not the first Jews in history to have these problems; some of these prayers have been the source for many questions and concerns over hundreds of years. For a time, Jews were afraid to ask the difficult questions about prayer and they were afraid to change the Machzor since the prayers within the book seemed so old and were considered to be an inheritance from our ancestors. But Jews of old were not so different from us Jews who live in the here and now. We ask the same question, if our ancestors could find meaning in these old prayers, why are these prayers so difficult for us?
  
  1. Rabbi Morris Silverman, and the committee that authored our Machzor, had to make many difficult decisions. The minutes of their meetings tell us that most of the time the committee opted to keep the prayers in their original Hebrew but changed the translations so that they would be more palatable for modern Jews. The first edition of this book was published in the 1940’s, before we understood the horror of the Holocaust and before we experienced the establishment of the State of Israel. It was reprinted in 1951, a world in which genders were carefully defined, divorce was still a shanda and nobody dared to talk about child abuse, civil rights and religious freedom. The great fear was atomic war, not terrorism or rogue states.
  1. But all the style and historical issues aside, we come to shul and we want to pray. But these High Holy Day prayers in the Machzor seem so problematic. Even the most iconic prayers for Rosh Hashana, make us at best, a bit queasy, and at most, very uncomfortable with what the prayers say and how they say them. Some of us have been saying these prayers for so many years that we really don’t look at them anymore. But it is not enough to chant the words we pray, they are supposed to become engraved in our hearts. When we take a good hard look at these prayers, we find ourselves starting to become unsure about if we want these words so engraved.
  1. There are many examples. We can start with the Unetane Tokef which we will recite in just a few more minutes. Our Musaf service today and tomorrow features a prayer teaching us that on these days, God decides who shall live and who shall die. Is this decision really set at the beginning of the year? For the rest of the year are we just playing out the fate that has been determined over the next ten days? And then it tells us that Teshuva, Tzedaka and Tephilla can avert God’s severe decree. Does this mean that if tragedy and sorrow visit our homes, that we did not pray enough? We didn’t repent enough? We didn’t give enough to Tzedaka?
  1. One of my colleagues had these issues rise right to the front of his mind one Rosh Hashana as he looked out at his congregation and saw an 11 year old girl, sitting near the front, whose mother was dying of metatastic breast cancer. What does this little girl experience when she recites this prayer? Will she go home thinking that all the efforts of doctors and family will be of no avail, that her mother’s fate has already been determined? And when her mother died the next week what did that little girl think? Did she learn from Unetane Tokef that perhaps she didn’t pray hard enough? Perhaps she was not sincere in her repentance? Perhaps she should have given more Tzedaka?  Unetane Tokef is one of the central prayers in our Machzor. How do we answer this little girl’s questions and how do we answer our own questions?
  1. Take a look at Avinu Malkeynu. Do we really envision God as a king, sitting on a throne up in heaven? Is God that old man in heaven deciding who will be granted pardon or not? Sometimes I think we look at God as some kind of a divine Santa Claus, whose job it is to grant the wishes on our list. The list of prayers that make up Avinu Malkeynu imply that God is arbitrary with God’s bounty. And then, who elected God to be the King of the Universe? Shouldn’t God be like a President rather then a King? And what is this about God being male? What if God is female? Or if God has no gender at all? Why is this prayer so medieval and so sexist?
 
  1. On Yom Kippur we will recite the Al Het, the list of 44 sins for which we repent. But what if we didn’t do all these sins? Why should I feel guilty about the sins of other people? What is this guilt thing that the Machzor wants to place upon me and that I have to literally beat myself up over things I don’t think I have ever been guilty of?
  1. And finally, there is Kol Nidre. The prayer that people come from high and low to hear. Hearing the Hazan sing the words can bring us to tears. We really want it to mean something, but the words read more like a contract then a prayer. Does this prayer get us off the hook for promises that we have made, or promises that we will make in the year ahead? Does this prayer imply that Jews don’t keep their promises? Whatever it may have meant to Jews living in Spain and Turkey, what meaning is it supposed to have for us, that we should gather by the thousands to hear Kol Nidre chanted each year?
  1. When we sit in our seats and open our Machzor, we find ourselves standing at the gates of prayer. What we find before us, as we enter the gate  – we find that we are confronted with a maze. We try to navigate the maze but all too soon, we find ourselves lost, alone and maybe angry. Where are the directions, where are we supposed to go, when are we supposed to stand and when do we sit? What page number are we on? Where do we buy a Machzor GPS to help us navigate through the maze?
  1. When we look in the Machzor and we say we are lost, we are not referring to the television show that ended last season. Although for some of us, prayer leaves us as confused as the famous last episode of LOST.  If we are to find our way, we first have to ask, “What do we usually do when we feel lost? What do we usually do to find our way home?”
  1. There are several options. We might try to return to the last place where we were sure of our location. That strategy does not work so well in the spiritual world. We cannot grow if we keep going back to the place we feel secure and comfortable. Growth is only possible when we move forward. Another strategy to use if we are lost could be to just sit down and wait for someone to find us. This strategy, however, also does not work in the world of prayer; it is possible to wait all of our lives and still not be sure of which way to go in prayer.
  1. When we are lost in prayer, the best  thing that we can do is to continue to explore the uncharted territory around us. There will be lots of things that are unfamiliar and perhaps we will make some mistakes along the way, but eventually, if we don’t give up, we can find ourselves at home in a new world, a world that gives us a deeper understanding of who we are and where we want to go in life.  Instead of feeling lost, we should see our time in the Machzor as an adventure and use that time to explore the uncharted wilderness, and discover for ourselves what prayer has to teach us.
  1.  What happens when we feel alone in the maze of prayer? We are, after all, Americans. We are trained from an early age to be loners. We idolize John Wayne, Sylvester Stallone and maybe Kevin Costner. If we are to make our way through life, and through prayer, we feel like we want to do it all by ourselves. All we should need to find our way should be talent and ingenuity. These should help us  to get through whatever life throws our way. Judaism, however, sees life differently. We live in a community. We pray with a minyan. What is good for the community, Judaism tells us, is good for our self. Selfishness is not a part of our faith.
  1. Judaism understands that there are many different ways to pray and our religion does not require us to offer only verbal prayer. When the great modern philosopher, Abraham Joshua Heschel walked with Martin Luther King Jr. for civil rights in Selma, Alabama, he said of that day that he felt like he was praying with his feet.  When people run to help others, when they comfort the mourners and visit the sick, when they go out of their way to help a neighbor and they take someone who does not drive to the doctor, to the grocery store and to synagogue. These are people who pray with their feet.
  1. And there are many other ways that Judaism allows us to pray. When we give money to those in need, when we give clothing to the poor, or even if we don’t have something to give, if we “only” give our friendship and our support, we are praying with our hands. When we lend someone who is unsure on their feet, our arms in support, or when we feed someone who can no longer feed themselves, our hands become our prayer.
  1. And when we speak up for Israel or when we protest against hatred and bigotry, when we object to injustice and demand civil rights, when we inspire others to share their ideas to help make the world a better place for everyone, this is how we pray with our minds and our ideas.  Over the course of a year, over the course of a lifetime, Every Jew prays in a way that is unique and right for whatever the situation may be.  At different times in our life we will discover that sometimes we will pray with words, sometimes we will pray with our feet,  sometimes we will pray with our hands and sometimes we will need speak to God through our ideas. As long as we can share our prayers, we will never be alone
  1. What if the maze of prayer makes us angry, what should we do? Again, we ask ourselves, what do we usually do when we are angry? Do we yell, complain or throw things around? I guess you can do all those things but I don’t think that they will change the world or our soul very much, throwing things will not help us find our way. Psychologists tell us that when we are angry, we should begin to ask questions, because collecting information helps stop the bad feelings and puts us back in control of our lives.
  1. If prayer makes us angry, we need to ask some good questions and make a serious effort to seek the answers. Judaism is centered on study and study is considered a form of prayer. We find in the Talmud the question, “What should one do if one is studying Deuteronomy in the Torah and then suddenly realized that it is time to recite the Shema? Do we need to stop and say the Shema, or does our study of the text count as praying?” The Talmud maintains that study does indeed count as prayer.
  1. The late Chancellor of the Seminary, Rabbi Louis Finkelstein used to teach that when he prayed, he talked to God, and when he studied, God spoke to him. We may not always know the right questions to ask and we may not always get an immediate answer, but there is comfort in knowing that we asked good questions. In Judaism, we are taught never to study alone. We are to study in Hevruta, with study partners.  When we share ideas and issues with our partners, only then can we enrich each others learning. And, by the way, there is no law in Judaism that when we are praying, everyone has to be on the same page. What is important when we pray is to encounter our prayers, not keep up with everyone else. When we pray, we don’t have to leave any page until we have contemplated it enough and are ready to move on.
1.       How then, should we understand the prayers in our Machzor that are so problematic? In the case of Unetane Tokef, as much as we like to be in control of our lives, sometimes life gets us anyway, with or without Teshuva, Tzedaka and Tephilla.  There are times that these three may strengthen us when disaster happens, but Teshuva, Tzedaka and Tephilla don’t stop the worst from happening. Additionally, as far as the claim in Unetane Tokef that only God knows who will live and who will die, in our modern world we human beings now have the machinery and the technology to keep human beings alive for months if not years. Sometimes we are the ones, looking at a loved one hooked up to that machine and we have to make the decision, should life go on or should our parent, spouse, or, God forbid, our child  be allowed to die? Perhaps Unetane Tokef should be our reminder that life and death decisions are not easy decisions. What if Unetane Tokef is telling us that we need to make our wishes about life and death known to our family. The prayer reminds us that we need to write a living will, set medical proxies and let our family know when we will want to live and when we should be allowed to die. It is important that our paperwork on these life and death decision is in order. If they are not in order, Unetane Tokef reminds us that after the holiday, we need to address these important questions.
  1. In the case of Avinu Malkeynu, The prayer does not have to be sexist. We can look at God, not as our father, but as our parent and we are children of the Divine ruler. Like a parent, perhaps God cannot help us out of all our troubles no matter how much we pray, beg or plead. Perhaps all we can expect from our parents is to hold us when we are afraid and comfort us when we are broken until we are healed. If Avinu Malkenu can do that, then it will have a lasting impact throughout the year.
  1. What about Al Het? We may not like the fact that we are made to feel guilty for sins we have not transgressed, but in a Jewish community, we are all responsible for each other. We can’t drill a hole in the bottom of the boat and tell the others with us that they don’t need to pay attention to our actions; after all we are only drilling under our own seat! It may be unfair when someone else sins and our stock portfolio goes down, but if we chose to close our eyes to the abuses around us, we all will suffer the penalties that are the consequences of our refusing to care.
  1.  Finally, Kol Nidre has never been about the words. It has always been about the music. Music that has transcended time and location. For centuries we have understood the words to refer not to promises made to other human beings but promises made to God.  Promises to God, however are the most important promises of all, so we should think carefully about what we promise God in our moments of weakness and then, when we do make a promise to God, we should use the commitments we make to sharpen our willpower and strengthen our resolve.
  1. We should not be surprised that if we who are here only three days a year find ourselves confused by our Machzor. Only if we are prepared to put some time and effort into our prayers, can we learn to feel better about the words we pray and the about the God whom we address.  Practicing prayer, studying prayer, experiencing prayer will get easier, better and will have more meaning if we perform our spiritual exercises in our synagogue. The Machzor calls us to make this year count. To make it count by growing, each day, in our ability to pray.
  1. There is a great story of a Rabbi and a soap-maker taking a walk in the shtetl. The soap-maker says, “I don’t get it Rabbi, The Siddur has been around for hundreds of years and the world is still not a better place than it was before. The Rabbi pointed to a very dirty boy playing in the street. “I don’t get this either, said the Rabbi, how come, after all the soap that is manufactured in the world, this little boy is still so dirty.” The soap-maker replied, “That is not fair, the boy cannot become clean unless he uses the soap.” The rabbi agreed and responded, “and so it is with the siddur, it is only good if people will use it.”
  1. In Itzik’s dream, the river is a metaphor for life, the castle represents Torah and the bridge is the synagogue. The treasure of spirituality, of holiness, of prayer, is with us, close at hand, wherever we go and no matter what we may do.  But knowledge of the treasure is found right here in the synagogue. It is found when we dig into the resources of this prayer community. When we gather here to study, when we gather here to pray and when we gather here to celebrate a new year that is beginning. Let us resolve to spend the New Year learning together, sharing life together and helping each other discover the treasure that lies right under our nose. Let us discover God within our souls by visiting our spiritual home, where knowledge of God can always be found.
May we draw closer to God each day as we study and pray as a community and may the New Year bring us the health, the wisdom and the faith we will need to find our way through the world of prayer as we say. ..
AMEN AND L’SHANA TOVA